My husband got mad at my daughter and threatened to not go with us on Christmas Day to my grandparent's house for dinner! I am very upset because everytime he gets angry he does stuff like this and puts lots of tension on me! Granted, my daughter did make him angry, but he must remember she's only 13! My kids are upset and I do not want our Christmas to be stressed or ruined! He loves my grandparents, but it is like he always threatens with stuff and says he isn't going, etc. It really hurts me and my kids! What can I say to him to calm and down and make him realize the importance of sharing Christmas with your family and sometimes letting things slide? Thank you for your help!
2006-12-23 17:58:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sure in the morning he'll cool off. give him some time to calm down. I'm sure he'll come around.
2006-12-23 18:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let your husband feel and make him realize how mean this Christmas vacation to you. Tell him, in the spirit of Christmas day its the time of "forgiveness" and "sharing". Set aside the problem done by your daughter and advise your daughter as well to ask an apology to his dad (nevermind who started the fight). And through that, I assure you everything is soon well settled.
Make God be the center of your relationship with your family. God loves you!
This is only a petty problem, keep your faith in him and he'll surely help you. Merry Christmas!
Thanks. :)
2006-12-24 00:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's definitely childish of your husband and after a while, it get's old. I'm going to suggest something that you make not like, but it's a chapter, out of the book of "tough love". I know it's important for your husband to go, but since you said yourself, he has a habit of doing thing's like this, I wouldn't beg him to go, or try to talk him into it. You need to practice a little reverse psychology, what I mean by that is, don't mention anymore about him going to your grandparent's, when it's time to go, you and the kids, just need to go. I guarantee you, he will go and once you act like you don't care if he doesn't go, he'll stop this nonsense, trust me, it works. Start giving him a dose of his own medicine! Happy Holidays.
2006-12-23 18:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your husband is using threats like this to control you and get his way. I think it is important to let him know that you want a stressfree Christmas and you want him to go. But also, if he chooses not to go, you think it is important for you and the kids to see their grandparents on this holiday.
It's tough to deal with this on just a holiday. This is really symtomatic of a long term problem. Let him know too that you would like to get help meeting with a counselor to talk these things through. If he won't go then go yourself.
Good Luck.
2006-12-23 18:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should pack up for the Christmas trip, and inform your husband his childishness is not going to ruin your holiday. He can either go, or sit home alone. If he does decide not to go, then simply inform your grandparents of his behavior. I think they'll back you!
2006-12-23 18:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him he either goes or he will sleeping on the couch or in the doghouse for the next week. Tell him Christmas is for the kids & not to ruin it for them. They will remember it for the rest of their life.
2006-12-23 18:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kara 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him you love him and how important it is for you and the children to spend this time together as a family. Well All i can say is at least you have your daughter to spend this lovely time with....your lucky.....i envy you guys.....I wish I had mine...i lost mine.....anyways.....try to keep your family together but you can't go on begging this man for ever, sounds like a step father relationship there.... take care of your children and give her all the love she needs.....I lost my little girl at the tender age of 12 to suicide....
2006-12-23 18:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this but i think your husband is the biggest child and should learn to grow up.
2006-12-23 18:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i guess he needs to see a doctor
2006-12-23 18:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by Guy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋