Ok well iam 19 and my g/f is 16 weve been dating for about 2 months well shes pregnant.we told our parents and their cool about it. And iam gunna take care of her and the baby regardless. but my question is this see her mom said that she can tell we really really like eachother and that i should ask her to marry me. Her mom also told me that if i ask her daughter to marry me then she will pay for a church wedding. i need some help heh iam just so confused do you think we are too young to get married or will it be best for the baby. Thanks (Shawn Bo)
2006-12-23 17:52:37 · 7 answers · asked by shawn b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunately, I am not there and I cant decide for you however, If you really do like her then go for it. Just so you know your stuck for life no matter what weather you decide to marry her or not. It seems like her mom would be happier if you did marry her. It would be good for the baby to have 2 parents but ultimately its all up to you..... dont worry the decisions only get harder......
2006-12-23 18:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only marry her if you really love her.
The mom is scared you're going to chicken out and run off, but if you're married, you're tied down kind of..
Hopefully you're mature enough and responsible enough to no do that and know that it would have a great effect on the baby and her mother. (Possibly also in a way that how it effects the mom will eventually transfer to the baby).
Don't do anything that would make you resent her and want to leave her. Hopefully the fact that you're having a child is enough to keep you around and supportive.
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-23 17:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by WiseWisher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the two of you need to discuss what the two of you want to do. You said the two of you really really like each other. Where is the Love each other? If the two of you want to get married then do it, but only if you love each other, not just like each other. If you really are going to take care of her and the baby good for you, but don't get married just because of the baby. Unless you two really really love each other and it will work. Cause if it doesn't the child is the one who really stands to suffer. But don't let anyone make the decision for the two of you. Good luck on your decision.
2006-12-23 18:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be married?
Does your girlfriend want to be married?
If so, take advantage of her mom's generosity.
Just remember that when you sign that marriage license you sign a contract that cannot be broken without jumping through all sorts of hoops and breaking the bank to do so.
PS Good for you for owning up and wanting to support mom & baby!
2006-12-23 18:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her yet. Stay in her and the kids life but don't commit yourself to marriage just yet. You are both young, things change, give it time before you take the plunge.
Peace
2006-12-23 17:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Massageman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno about getting married...it may be a good idea now but you could end up resenting her and the baby later...tough call gl
2006-12-23 17:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by ytrewq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetly wait.
2006-12-23 17:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jake - Listen 2 the beatz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋