I have a 3 yr old son that has always been a little angel. -must just be his personality because my youngest is already a little terror. Anyway tonight we had a Christmas party and his four year old cousin comes running into the living room screaming saying my son hit him on the head with a bucket. I was in shock.. and my nephew always crys when people even accidently bump into him so I thought well maybe it was an accident. I went in there and asked my son and he owned up to it but had no reason as to why? He hasn't ever hit anyone before to my knowledge but when we go on playdates the kids will come and say that my son won't play with them. You know the whole "mommy he won't play with me" My youngest is only ten months but my 3 yr old never hits him or anything if I am not around. He is actually extremely protective. So much so that when his aunt gave him a toy tonight the first thing he said was "what about my brother" When my youngest gets in trouble my oldest cries haha. But he just doesn't like other kids. He wants to be left alone. If I had to guess I would think that is probably why he hit him. How do I encourage him to be more outgoing? He loves older kids ..my brother and sister are only 11 and he loves playing with them and is always sweet. I worry about when he starts school...
2006-12-23 17:42:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My oldest was just like your son. He was the best brother but he wasn't interested at all in getting to know other kids. We put him in t-ball, kindergym, playgroups... we took him to group swim at the Y and he would just play happily by himself. He was mostly good natured but occasionally, he would get angry when another child would "bug" him to play or talk to them.
At 7, he started making friends ... two best friends who were great kids. We had almost given up on him ever talkin to anyone but family.
He's 19 now... he's a standup comic who's onstage about 5 nights a week. He was president of his high school and he's about the most outgoing kid you'd ever want to meet. He just liked his own company.
Our 14 year old was and is outgoing from day one even though he had his big brother doting on him. Today, they're still best friends and they still look out for each other. When my oldest went off to college, my youngest went through a hard time on his own because he'd never really been without someone to annoy.
2006-12-23 17:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to send him to school. The other kids at pre-school will teach him when its wise to hit back and when its not. He will learn how to make friends and when to tell if he is being bullied. I think your nephew probably took a toy or something from your son and the only thing he knew he could do was hit him. Teach him he can say NO that is mine when another child takes his stuff. Three year olds still dont play together as such but prefer to play next to someone else.
2006-12-24 02:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be himeself and stand behind him. It's important for children that their mothers see their personality traits in positive light. Slowly they will change with age.
For example, a lot of adults don't like and even criticize directly about a shy kid, but the plus point is that a shy kid won't just go with any old stranger. They tend to stay with moms and don't just wonder away.
Kids kinda intuitively know what is good for them. Have faith and don't worry.
2006-12-23 17:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cappuccino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could just be a phase... my nephew went through a phase like that when he was 3, and he is just now comming out of it at 4. He actually stopped being anti social and mean IN preschool.. being around the other children, without mommy and his baby brother there.. made him drop his gaurd and realise that the other kids were fun! He really has blossomed and its helped his behavior twords his brother and his cousins, too.. hes much more apt to share and be gentle and polite to his cousins.
2006-12-23 17:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be himself. You cannot force him to be friendly with other children and chances are when he gets in school he will learn. My son was like that, and now in preschool he has all kinds of friends and behaves very well. If you are worried I would find a play group with children his age to interact with. The more he is around other children the more he will accept them.
2006-12-23 17:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry...just cuz he hit one kid doesnt mean hes horrible! You should be glad to know that when it comes down to it he an hold his own and take care of himself. This is a great reason NOT to worry about him when he starts school! Not everyone needs to be outgoing.
2006-12-23 20:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was the same way, he got much better after he started school. Now he is in 1st grade and he has tons of friends, he will be fine don't worry.
2006-12-23 17:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by imalwysrite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tru haveing your brother and sister come to play dates when he sees them playing with the younger kids and setting good exaples he might strt playing with them too
2006-12-23 17:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋