i recently hurt my exgirl's heart when i made her feel inadequate about sex. she is still a virgin and she's givin her all except for sex. i told her i can wait untill you're ready but after about 9 months, the wait takes it's toll. when i said what i said i didn't mean it in the context of her not giving me enough but thats the way she took it. for the pass week now she's been going out with other guys now but she said that they are just friends and she knew them since 10th grade. she told me that she has rejected there offer of replacing me because she still loves me, but she continues to go out with these people. should i do the same and try to get over her or should i just stick around and try to fix what i've broken?
2006-12-23 17:38:03 · 10 answers · asked by h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how can i try to fix it i've already apoligze
2006-12-23 18:39:09 · update #1
You told your gf that you were willing to wait until she is ready which is decent of you. You said that, "when I said what I said I didn't mean it in the context of her not giving me enough, but that's the way she took it." Are you sure she understands that you didn't mean that you aren't dissatisfied with the physical side of your relationship? The fact that she started going out with other guys so soon after you two had a disagreement seems very immature to me. She wants to make you jealous. Aside from talking with her and explaining that you didn't mean to imply that you were unhappy with the physical side of the relationship,I don't think there's anything else you can do. I'm wondering if she is using that as an excuse to see these other guys and is trying to lay a guilt trip on you. If you don't have plans to marry in the near future, how long does she expect you to wait? I think if I were you, I would reflect on all of this and search your heart as to the best course of action. Maybe this girl isn't for you. Maybe you should leave the ball in her court and wait and see what she does. Good luck, and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-23 17:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't take back words you already said. She can't be inadiquate about sex if she's a virgin. So you've made a HUGE mistake. Sounds like you weren't willing to wait and she said NO.
Maybe she does love you and is trying to make you jealous, by dating others, but thats wrong too.
If you REALLY like/love her, are REALLY going to let HER be the judge of when she wants sex, then talk with her. Be mature about it, tell her how you feel and LISTEN to her and how it makes her feel. (dimished as a human...I'm sure.)
So grow up, act mature and you might do the right thing for once...
2006-12-24 01:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was your purpose in voicing such concept? if you really cared about her it wouldnt be a toll now would it? apparently you have had sex prior to her and are missin it... sounds to me like you need to reevaluate what you want and how you want it. If you are truly happy with her then waiting maybe uncomfortable at times but there is ways around that, self gratification or ways of getting release with her help that wont compromise her values IF and ONLY IF she is willing and honest and not guilted into it... simultaneous masturbation, oral sex, manual sex... but those need to be honest and open conversations about balancing your needs and hers.... worst thing you could do would be to have sex with her before she is ready. i'm suspusicious that its not what you said so much as how you said it. Do you understand her reasons? accept them? is she worth waiting for? how old are you? is she? you may have to accept you did more damage than can be fixed....
2006-12-24 02:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to fix what youve broken man i mean i know i would i am in a bit of a bad situation myself and i know that i realy love my girlfriend and would do anything to keep her happy i know that 9 months is a long time to wait for sex but its ok man once you get it youll cherish it even more i mean try getting her back and ask her to please not go out with any other guys because u still love her and that it hurts to see her out with other guys .. tell her how special she is to you and how muc you need her the rush for sex is not important but if its that important to you and you cant wait then maybe the relationship isnt worth as much to you as you thought if u realy love her you'll wait
2006-12-24 01:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by brian g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since you're the one that screwed up, I say you try to fix it if you really love her. And don't pressure her into sex because I know from experience that's the quickest way to lose a girl.
2006-12-24 01:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by shoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try and fix things with her.She sounds like a descent young lady and they are hard to come by theses days.She just felt pressured by you trhat's all that's all that's why she decided to see other ppl.But believe me if she did'nt give you any she isn't giving them any either.Just stick around and don't pressure her I think you will be the lucky one.
2006-12-24 01:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to fix it. At least you're man enough to admit screwing up. But in order to fix things up with her, you're going to have to pour your heart out to her.Good luck.
2006-12-24 01:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fix what u have broken that's the problem with most guys they want it their way.you hurt her feelings saying that made her felt like she meant nothin all you wanted was just sex.apologise and work it out
2006-12-24 01:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by fantasticgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just want the 2 points, I don't really care about you.
2006-12-24 01:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her try and fix it......
2006-12-24 01:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by bongtokingsk8er 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋