why do men cheat? how do you stop them?

Question

I heard men cheat cuz they r bord or arnt getting what they want/need at home! how do you find out what that is if they wont talk to u? my bf has been calling dating lines and wont talk to me about what it it is he wants and isnt geting from me! he used to rock inbed and now well he cums fast and wont do anything to finish me! is it ok to cheat on him? i think he isnt intrested in me anymore and wants to cheat! should i cheat on him or can i fix the situation? i dont get y this is happining any real advice would be appreciated! by the by i dont want to loose my bf

Answer 1

I don't cheat

Answer 2

Well be honest and talk to him about it. Spice things up in the bedroom. So yes there is a possibility things could be worked out but do I think you should cheat on him..no. Two wrongs don't make a right.If you have to go to that extreme then just cut your ties and go your own way.

Answer 3

Bad sex (or, of course, no sex) is obviously one issue...and not just because they want it for fun but, often more so, because it is a symbol of weakness (and most men with self-respect will do almost anything to avoid being wussies).

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If a guy won't tell you anything's wrong he is being passive-aggressive. And just about the only time guys are passive-aggressive is after women are passive-aggressive toward them. The problem is women do many things that they don't realize guys will read as being passive-aggressive.

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Short definition of what "passive-aggressive" means:

If you go up to a loud guy at a bar who is sitting next to some quiet guy and the loud guy asks you out and you say to the bartender "it'd be nice of some people knew what they were saying (talking about the loud guy)", that's passive aggressive. And, yes, guys are smart enough to pick that up and get pissed about it...both being insulted by the comment and being insulted as too dumb to realize they had been insulted.
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But, more often than not, so far as I can gather, quite often the conflict has nothing to do with sex. If a guy feels in his gut he is PAYING THE WOMAN MORE, be it in time, money, being her shoulder to cry on...THEN HE FEELS HE IS GETTING BACK, he will likely find a way to "get even", including denying her pleasure in sex.
And often that way is a passive-aggressive comeback like cheating or taking from sex and not giving, since the offense of a woman's treating a man as socially clueless (IE "oh he's a man he won't figure out I'm mooching of him bit by bit") is passive-aggressive.

I'd need to know more about the situation, mostly how you treat this guy, to answer your question. My guess is, if the sex was intense once and your b/f was really into it at the time that sex isn't the issue in your case, it's likely more about your making something else annoying and "expensive" (IE time, going dutch, having him seen in a positive light in front of your friends, saying "you can't do that" when he tries something new, constantly looking for material gifts for yourself as if his company isn't enough...and more).

If it turns out you really do treat him like an equal in the ways mentioned above and more, are very enthusiastic about him (IE you start anything you guys do naughty or playful as much as he does), and don't act like he's clueless about what you are talking about just because he's male, for example........then you are most likely doing nearly everything right and this guy most likely has insecurity issues (and needs to be dumped). But, if that's the deal, dump him don't run around cheating on him to "prove you are just as powerful"...unless you really want you both to become addicted to a very potentially abusive relationship.

But I think, chances are, this guy is mostly seeking "revenge" for some way your have not treated him as being as smart, fun, and knowledgable as yourself.

Best luck.

Answer 4

Give your BF a very good performance everytime coz thats what I've done when my husband cheat me a few weeks ago and he finally realized that Iam a good performance satisfy his need do something different be creative and make a full make over gurl 100% he will be again productive to you......

Answer 5

why don't you just break up with him? Is it really worth it to date someone who cheats on you, then you turn around and cheat on him? It's unhealthy for both of you. Your relationship is not going to go anywhere, b/c you'll both be busy having sex with other people. Just end it now and save the trouble that will come later.

Answer 6

thats bull. guys cheat because they choose to. If they are unhappy, then break it off. I am married and I work away from home for weeks at a time, and I dont have the urge to cheat. just cut your losses

Answer 7

Here it is. He doesn't care about you anymore. If you are not happy, and you have let him know, and he still does not change, you must change boyfriends.
My advice would be to leave him first though. Cheating is bad Mojo and can come back to bite you later on.

Answer 8

I don't know about him but if I came quick I will keep going intill she is satisfied and some,No don't cheat on him, wait maybe you do it to much take a break and he and you will have a better moment.

Answer 9

well first why do men cheat.. probobly because they just dont like or got bord of the girl and dont wanna tell them. i dont think u can really stop them like if there going to do it there going to do it. by what you said i would suspect he dosnt like you for one reason or another and just doesnt want to tell you either because he is too shy or thinks you'll get mad at him.. or he just plain doesnt want to hurt you.

Answer 10

Men who cheat, just suck, they are low life being who need to be killed. They shouldn't live.