She is 37 and was married once before... We've been dating for 6 months, but she is not that close with him. He lives 2 hours away and I haven't met him yet.
2006-12-23 17:08:43 · 27 answers · asked by Jason 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
One more thing I should add... We're supposed to go to his house so I can meet him in 2 weeks from now, but I really wanted to give her the ring on Christmas...
2006-12-23 17:15:24 · update #1
No it's not that important it wouold be nice but if you want to ask her on christmas I would just go ahead and ask her not that many people ask the fathers anymore.
2006-12-24 03:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a requirement that you ask her father for permission...it sounds like you should be giving the relationship a little more time, though. Since she was married before and you've only been dating for 6 months, this Christmas might not be the right time...maybe next Christmas?? Give the relationship some time.
2006-12-25 04:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 37 and has been married before, I'd say it's not necessary. However, I think it would be nice to call him and let him know. Or give her the ring now and then pull him aside when you meet him and get his permission then.
2006-12-24 03:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by dixiegirl687 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to propose on Christmas, go ahead. When you meet her father, take him aside and still ask for his blessing (rather than his permission.) You could say something like "I've asked Jane to marry me and she's accepted. Before we proceed with planning, I wanted your blessing/permission to marry her." Then state the reasons why you love her, how you'll care for her, and indicate that it is important to you to have his okay.
2006-12-24 00:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
37 hell no!! she old enough to know what she want, and been marry before. 6months look that not enough time to know a marry women of the past, what her history?, she abuses, an addict, what do you know about her , does she have kids, and want you to be for supports. I say checks every fine prints before signing after that it not just jumping in the sack, it more than that .I also know she not close with her dad must be that she cannot get a long with no one or been abuses.
2006-12-23 17:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not necessary to ask for his permission to marry his daughter.
1. That is an old custom and unnecessary in today's day and age.
2. This would be her second marriage, she has already been given away.
2006-12-23 17:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if she's a woman who is completely dependant on men with no rights of her own. You know, sort of like property. That's how the tradition started anyways. Personally, I'd be offended if my lover asked my dad before we agreed on the whole marriage thing.
2006-12-23 21:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, seeing as i lived both in the middle east and USA, i know they both have diff traditions. like in the west u just get down on ur knees and ask the girl to marry u, but in the middle east u have to get the approval of the parents.. I say, u shud get to meet her father to get closer to the family. Even though its not traditional, her father will still appreciate and respect u asking him to marry his daughter and will be delighted abt it. good luck
2006-12-23 17:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ruby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think I did for my wife. She was 51 and I ws 50. I think she needs to tell him that you are getting married but in this day I dont think its required for you to asked him, since she is 37/\.
2006-12-23 17:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He would be honored with the question. A very classy thing to do. Happy Christmas.
2006-12-23 17:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋