The little 4 year old boy I babysit called me "sexy" the other day, and also plays violently, often copying themes from television and movies his parents must let him watch.(We do not watch TV when I am babysitting) I do not feel that this sort of language, talk or play is appropriate for a boy his age. How do I deal with him without offending the parents/ his upbringing?
2006-12-23 16:36:57 · 14 answers · asked by cutie pie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Stop babysitting him. You can not dictate to his parents what they choose to allow him to watch (I wouldn't allow it but I'm not this child's parents) The only thing I can suggest is not babysitting him any longer and when they as why, be honest.
2006-12-23 16:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother of 2 and to I also have a nephew 5 yrs. old and he is the same way , but mybe he can act like so at home but as time goes by the child will see that you are serious and he will start to respect you . Just keep doing what you are doing by not letting him watch the tv show s and correct him when he talk in a unaccpectalbe manner
2006-12-23 16:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by mother of 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to the parents, but chances are they aren't going to change their parenting style. and will most likely be offended. The child probably doesn't know any better because people he is with think it is funny. Your best bet is to make sure the child knows that certain behavior will not be tolerated when he is in your care, especially the violent behavior. Let him know exactly what behaviors or language is not allowed, and what the consequences will be for behaving that way. Good luck!
2006-12-23 17:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Heather B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. That is very inappropriate.
I would stop babysitting him and explain why only when prompted. They are adults and should understand to not be offended. This is a child, who has been influenced early and can still be retaught that the way he talks and acts is inappropriate. If the parents could see that, he may get help.
2006-12-30 12:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Susan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk w/ the parents first. Explain everything what you think is right. I know they would understand cos you're talking about their son's well being. If they are good parents, they would heed to your advice but if not, please do not stop babysitting the kid cos you might be the only one who can stop this kid from doing anything bad. You are aware that the kid has a prob so please just stay.
2006-12-30 19:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by reza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the first step is to just ask the parents and let them know of that behavoir, dont tell them, ask them, ask them if its ok that he jumps on the couch, ask them what they would like you to do if he swings at you, ask them how you would punish them or speak to them so they can deal with it, anyways good luck, fyi, i babysat four kids all at one time and the four year got a pair of scissers, i didnt chase or run cause i didnt want him to run then he ran anyways, needless to say I got stabbed in the hand with a pair of scissors, i consulted the mother and she spoke to the child, and there was know guilt on my part, just a sore hand
2006-12-29 15:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are very intelligent so be very consistent with him/her re: inappropriate behavior. A kid can behave opposite with you and his parents. You have no control as far as what he is exposed in his own home. Concentrate on good behavior so that the unwanted behavior will disappear. Every time he calls you sexy tell him nicely, my name is such and I love when you call me by my name. (make no big deal about it) otherwise you will be re-affirming unwanted behavior.
2006-12-31 09:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... first, the parents are older than you (presumably) so they will be able to handle you telling them how you feel. The choice is yours... let them know you won't tolerate that behavior, and your stance on TV... They may appreciate your insight into their kids behavior.
I wish you lived near me to babysit our kids!
2006-12-23 16:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by justr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is in your care, you can set rules and enforce them. If he tells his parents, that's fine because you have done nothing wrong (hopefully) and can explain why you have set rules. If his parents allow him to behave badly in their care, that's their choice. But after a few times of stating and reinforcing the rules, and time-outs/ other disciplinary tactics, he will begin to at least behave around you!
2006-12-23 18:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine Swirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only real help with that is getting the parents involved
2006-12-23 17:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋