I've been going out w/ this guy 4 about a month or so and i really do like but he has done alot of things to me and i don't know if i should be with him? He first cheated on me and he lied to me about him having a new born baby girl..after i found out about all of that i forgave him and i'm still with him he now claims he has changed and promises me that he will never do it again but i can't really trust him as much. But now not only is that my problem the mother of his baby won't leave us alone she makes up stuff about me tellin him that i call her and tell her stuff and that i cheat on him and things like that when its the opposite...i've tried to brake up with him tellin him that its better off if we r friends but we always end up back together.....some of my friends tell me to leave that he is not worth but some of my other friends tell me that i should fight for him and give him this last chance. I don't know what to do? Should i be with him or just leave him for good?
2006-12-23 16:29:22 · 20 answers · asked by confused_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From my experiences, if a guy causes that much trouble and drama in only a month, he's definitely not worth it. I would forget him for good.
2006-12-23 16:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take anybodies answer if they say leave or stay. Why think you have to realize in this situation is do u see him as the man of your life or just a short term relationship. By defining that answer u will ultimately know if he the one for you. Obvious I think you care a lot for him and that u love him, however the key thing is does he love and care for u. And again is this the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.Besides the baby, the baby mommy, and lies you guys must come to a genius consensus and see if you guys really love each other. If that's the case then after setting the foundation of you guys love then you guys can embark on the issues that life brings. If you guys cant set that foundation then leave . Its simply at that. No matter how hard stuff gets , you guys really love each other, You guys will make it to the end. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-24 00:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety why get into a f-k up relationships, you have better taste than a player, who cannot take care of his own child, but ables to cheats and God knows how many more he has. Honey get rids of him cause you,ll end up supporting his child and ex. Sweety he was not honest with you, he,ll never be. A newborn need a father and a mother, your just something he can sticks his meat into becareful, that you don,t get pregnant, or catches any disease.The guy not for you and I wouldn,t even be friend, the baby come first not the OVEN!!!!
2006-12-24 00:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this same thing and I now have a one year old son. His father has nothing to do with him. If you cheat once, you'll do it again. It's your life and no one can tell you what to do, but I just hope if you do decide to stay that things get better. If he lied to you once what's to say he won't do it again. If you don't have trust, then you don't have much. Good Luck hun and wish you the best. It's a hard decision but just hang in there. Whatever you decide just remember to stand your ground firmly.
2006-12-24 00:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by tidbittrivitt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him right away. have you heard of 'fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.' well he's messing with your head, your heart, and on top of that he comes with built-in baby mama drama. good god! is this really the type of realtionship you want? when you dream of what a happy loving life looks like, does it resemble your life now? Set some standards for yourself, you deserve to be respected. As far as you guys keep getting back together, there is only one cure for that, and trust me i know, you have to completly cut him off! no phone calls, no text messages, no letters, no answering the door. Absolutly nothing! If you can get of town for a vacation that is the ideal situation. shut your phone off and relax! Its like cigerettes, yknow, the only people that can really quit the addiction is to do it cold turkey, and it sounds like this guy has become more of an addiction in your life. Quit the habit of dealing with his nonesense and lies. Dont be made a fool.
2006-12-24 00:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by jezabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, you obviously have some doubts.
It is pretty obvious that he is a loser. Your friends are correct. But if you prefer having a lot of drama in your life, then by all means keep playing this silly game with him.
You already see what kind of aggravation is being generated by the baby's mother, and it will only go downhill from here.
You do the math.
2006-12-24 00:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are the only one that really can answer this question. You are the one that is going to be living or living without him. The only thing I can say is to pick the choice which you don't think in the long one you will regret. Just don't put him on a pedastal because he did cheat and lie to you.
2006-12-24 00:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by help1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you are dating... you are in lust at this point and time... Love is not an option right now... You stay in your own place.. and have him stay in his.. and just date and become friends... oh and please do not get pregnant by this dude... that will only screw up your life and also an innocent childs... You have all these red flags waving telling you that he is not ready to settle down.... so just date him.. Leave the love thing out of it... as far as the other woman and child goes it is none of your business unless he is married to this other woman and you are with him... then you need to run like hell... you would be wasting your life.,
2006-12-24 00:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him and his ex are very manipulative which is hurtful and immature. You deserve so much more.They are ugly people that really deserve each other. Can you imagine what their child must go through?? They sound like they are both addicted to drama (baby-mama-drama). Bail before you get sucked into that destructive triangle. Just think, if you stay, you are denying a man that is dreaming and hoping for someone like you. Bless and release them.
2006-12-24 00:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are of the same kinda back ground as this guy, stay with him, If you object/or disagree with his means of living lying/cheating/ probable addiction problems leave him and look for someone that is more in the line of what you want.
2006-12-24 00:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends tell you that you should fight for him? Hon, I think you need to get a different set of friends!
Look at all of the things that he's done to you in about a month of dating. Does it hurt?
Now, imagine years of hurt like that.
It's not fun. Let him go.
2006-12-24 01:32:56 · answer #11 · answered by neserit_luncast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋