k... there is this one guy that I have been friends with for about two years, he has been hitting on me the entire time we have been friends, we are really good friends, but he just does not get the picture that I NEVER want to become more than that! I have tried all kinds of hints, but he never seems to pick up! Do I need to risk jeopardizing my friendship by flat out telling him that he has no chance with me? oh, and I can't start dating another guy to get him away, I don't have any prospects
2006-12-23 16:14:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds annoying. You say you were never really good friends so what's the point of keeping him? Just tell him flat out that you're not interested because you've done all sorts of hints and he doesn't get those. I think it's time that you deserve to be happy, get him out of your life and meet new people because you've been dealing with this prick for two years! Good luck!
2006-12-23 16:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You may just have to tell him flat out, or start talking about someone you think is really hot around him anytime you see him until he stops hitting on you, or mention the standards a man must meet before you will date him (set them very high and mention nothing he could have in common with those standards), and if that fails, make up a relationship, even if it means calling up some random dude whenever he questions you about whomever it is you are 'dating'.
2006-12-24 00:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by NBinGP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem. Just be straight forward with him. I was interested in a girl where I cash my checks. I had been wanting to take her out for quite a while. She wasn't interested so she was straight with me. She told me that we became friends and only wanted to stay as that. I wasn't picking up the hints either until she just flat out told me. Now, I have moved on. We are better friends today because of her honesty.
2006-12-24 00:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hently tell him that he's not the one for you.Tell him there's someone else in your mind. Seems like he doesn't get your hints.
I was in your situation once. Guys have pride and ego, do not hurt his feelings. If he's really that stubborn, try to avoid him at all costs for a while. I think he should be able to accept the fact. Gel back the frienship once he's ready.
Do not tell him to get lost. I mean, if you were him, would you like somebody to tell you to get lost and stop bothering you?
Merry Christmas ^_^
2006-12-24 00:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Yoo Hoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going out more often with your female friends.Get a social life of your own if you are always busy with other activities.It sounds like he is pretty persistant therefore you have to let your family know that you have a real problem.Just don't be available find any excuse.
Be busy.
2006-12-24 00:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by melbournewooferblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his hitting on you bothers you, be up front and tell him your not interested. If he gets uppity, then he never was your friend to begin with. Feelings will get hurt no matter what you do. It's the fact that you're tired of his crap and he has to get checked.
2006-12-24 00:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by lickthisup69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about guys you have crushes on and how they are so hot. Make friends with other guys and talk about your ex boy friends alot. Hopefully he will get annoyed. If not then u are dealing with a psycho. Good luck
2006-12-24 00:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. I don't think he gets your hints, i really don't know if it will jeopardize your friendship, but the truth is always better.
2006-12-24 00:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by ana3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he's been sexually harassing you for two years. Doesn't sound like a friend to me. If you get rid of him, maybe your prospects will brighten.
2006-12-24 01:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him flatout.
since you've been friends for two years, you guys should be comfortable enough to tell each other these things.
2006-12-24 00:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by monica80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋