It's been about 3 weeks since we've split up, but I still have strong feelings for her and I'm wanting to get her something for Christmas. I want to try to strengthen our friendship and show her that I still care for her, even if it means just being her friend. I know she caught a cold recently and I just thought I'd make her a blanket and tell her to keep warm and take care of herself. As much as I've tried to stop, the part of me that wants to take care of her just won't stop, it doesn't feel right to stop. I want us to overcome this awkward stage in our friendship and so I'm trying everything to help that. Do you think she would feel weird accepting a gift from me?
2006-12-23 16:05:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I'd be uncomfortable receiving a gift from my ex. Maybe you could give the blanket to a needy person on the street or give a small gift to a friend that you don't normally exchange gifts with?
2006-12-23 16:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with the feelings you still have. She may or may not feel weird about accepting a gift, but most likely your feelings for her are stronger than hers for you right now, and it would most likely be a painful, awkward gesture to try to give her a gift this year.
I'm sure she is wonderful and maybe you guys can be friends again one day, but probably not just yet. Wait awhile to contact her, even in an attempt to "just be friends". I'd suggest waiting until early February with no contact in the meantime--not emails or calls or messages through mutual friends. You need a bit of distance for now.
Make the blanket if you like, and think of her, and when you look at it remember the good times, but call a friend instead of her.
Trust me nothing good can come of interacting with her, in the hope that she will get back together with you.
Hard as it is to do, I advise NOT giving a gift, no matter how much you really want to show that you care. It is not likely to lead to an outcome that will make you feel happy about the gesture.
2006-12-23 16:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by littleredms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very nice intention on your part. If you've split on good terms, she should not feel weird about receiving a gift from you. In fact, she will probably be very moved and will appreciate that. However, make sure she does not misinterpret your action, thinking that you want to get back together as a couple.
2006-12-23 16:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Maria wants no hassle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if shes not over u she might feel weird about the gift but just find something else to do and then u wont be obsessed with her
2006-12-23 16:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dam right you just broke up and i would say she was the one who did the breaking, move on ,cut all ties .dont give her gifts it will give her the wrong message get back in the saddle and dont look back
2006-12-23 16:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an EX for a reason riiiiight? So why do anything at all.....if you still love her tell her that..... if she's over you then just move on......
2006-12-23 16:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a nice gesture to show her that you still care about her.
2006-12-23 16:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the break-up -- if she broke up with you she might find you annoying --- if it was mutual go for it, she will appreciate the kindness.....:)
2006-12-23 16:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tajay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word - chocolate
get her some godiva chocolate and if you are of age, a nice australian shiraz....in total you're out about $25 and you'll both enjoy it.
2006-12-23 16:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by mkreuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because she probaly wants to move on
2006-12-23 16:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by LaLa :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋