i am 23 and im finishing college, the guy im planning to marry is 9 years older, ive been with him for a long time, do you guys think its ok? Do you think age plays an important role?
2006-12-23 16:00:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh plus, i havnt told my parents his age yet cause he looks younger and they never asked, how do i tell them, and do you think they'll have a problem with it?
thanks
2006-12-23 16:04:29 · update #1
Yes, that's okay. You are a grown woman and a soon-to-be college graduate. You are both adults.
And, yes, age would play an important role if you were 14 and he was 23.
2006-12-23 16:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesnt matter in most ways. It only really counts if you are active and he is getting his walker stuck on his false teeth that keep falling out, as he's begging you to slow down. But even THEN, if you were together a long time and you WERE the same age and he had an accident, he may wind up mentally YOUNGER. That sounds a lot worse to think of it that way, that is if you asked "if its okay to be with someone mentally challenged and having the mind-span of a mere boy". So don't think of "birth-year" age. All that matters is if you are in a common physical/mental age. Of course if he is a bagazillionaire, it's best if you are 18 and he is 107.............
2006-12-24 00:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as much as maturity. You're finishing college, once you're out of high school the age thing isn't important. You're both adults, and if you're happy, that's what matters. I've hooked up with a guy 10 years older than me and it wasn't a problem, he's one of my best friends and age was never an issue with us.
2006-12-24 00:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by centralwimusic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a big plus for the relationship if the guy is older than the girl. males mature later than girls. i think it would cause lesser strains in the relationship if the couple are in the same maturity level because they can both relate to the same things.
about the parents stuff... i guess the age gap won't be a problem for them as long as the guy is responsible and is type that won't hurt their daughter in any way.
2006-12-24 00:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by happyness=) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i do not think age is a big deal, as long as you're not 14/15 and you partner is 9 years older than you. You have to follow your heart and if your heart wants to be with him then don't worry about what others think because they are not important as long as you are happy and with the one that you love then it is all good. My boyfriend is 4 years older than me and people are constantly talking about how that's such a difference, but I'm just like "are you the one with him? i didn't think so, so please mind your own business." age is just a number. tell your parents the heart wants what it wants and that you can't help who you love you are your own women and make your own desicions. it might take them by surprise, but they will understand if they want you to be happy. i hope i helped and best of luck.
2006-12-24 00:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years is not that much - especially at your age. The real question is do YOU think it's too much? Do you have things in common? Do you feel comfortable with his friends? And does he feel comfortable with your friends?
It's time to tell your parents if you are really planning to marry.
2006-12-24 00:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the hurry? Now that you have finished college, you need to spend a year or two working in your chosen profession.
By the time that you are 25 or 26, you will be better equipped to know if he is REALLY the one!
2006-12-24 00:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you guys are talking 20;s and 30;s what about 50 and 70 Just another point of view
2006-12-24 00:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by JntheRev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really. I'm 28 and have been dating girls that are 21-22. Age does not play a factor unless hes old enough to be your grand pa.
2006-12-24 00:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candice: yes age does matter that shows how manture
each person acts ! well I suggested for yourself to wait until
later on . But take it easy for now just talk with him only
have an safe Holiday Season ok?
2006-12-24 00:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋