my fiance has a step son almost 1 year.. i have no problem with taking care of him and all, he was adpoted btw.. i love my fiance and his step son. my problem is, i know how much my fiance loves his son, he is the world to him. I have problems with accepting his son, sure hes cute and i can take care of him and watch him grow up. Theres something in me thinking, i dont even know his child, and i love him cause of my fiance, not because hes going to be my son also. my fiance adpoted him before i knew him.
Did anyone go through something like that, how do i over come it?
2006-12-23 15:25:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
so its just like ur soon to be husband hes not ur blood he is a man u fell in love with and if u cant luv his child u shouldnt be with him.....happy holidays
2006-12-23 21:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in two long-term relationships with single mothers that didn't work out.I am now involved with a fine lady that has no children.That little bit of information might give you something to think about.But don't let my misfortune steer you away from what might be an otherwise fulfilling relationship.
You need to ask yourself if YOU'RE ready to take on a "ready-made" family.
It's not for everybody,but the experience can be the reward of a lifetime.Just make sure that YOU are prepared and equipped to step into a role that requires maturity and patience.If you don't feel ready for this then you will be doing them (and yourself) a disservice by stepping up to this duty.And it is indeed a duty!
There is nothing convenient about being a single parent,or the child of a single provider.When you step into the lives of these people you WILL have to make sacrifices,regardless of what the parent tells you!
Take a good long hard look at yourself.....are you ready for this man? Are you ready for this child?
If you can walk peacefully into THAT household then you may have found heaven here on earth.
God bless all of you!
2006-12-23 23:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only time will help you overcome it. Try to be more involved in his son's life. Trust me. You will be thankful because the more interest you show in his son, the more interest he will have for you. You should try to love him as a person not as an object that came with the territory. If you fiance has any doubts that you don't feel forhis son, he will move on to someone that will. Just learn to accept him the best that you can. You might be thankful that you did.
2006-12-23 23:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by myangelbarry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if u really love ur fiance,u will love everything of hers!u already told that she love her adopetde son very much,see tht baby is only 1 year old.if u both can marry and have a life together tht son will get a a very good dad&mom.after u have to thnk that the son is adopted !he doesnt have dad or mom to love.only u can give.one day or the other he will recognise and they society will appreciated ur character and behaviour to tht son.anyway in this matter u have to ask urself whther to have realation wth ur fiance or not or if u really wish u shld not avoid tht poor son.god will punish u,if u do tht,i would say its would be the biggest mistake for which u cannot apologizse not even in the 7th rebirth!
2006-12-24 07:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by molmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your fiance has adopted this child it is NOT his step son, it is his son, period. A step child is a child from a blended marriage, a man marries a woman who has a child and that child is the man's step child. You are just going to have to deal with this child as being a part of his life and a part of your's unless you end your relationship with this guy.
2006-12-24 01:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you be a little bit jealous of the boy? Maybe you feel a little left out when they are together and you have to share his love and attention? Also if you have no children of your own you might feel a little tied down. All of these feelings are perfectly normal. If you recognize any of these feelings in yourself, then you can deal with them. Please find a way to deal with your feelings about him before you marry. If you don't they will come between you and your future husband. Children always have to come first. We are adults and we can deal with things, children shouldn't have to be responsible for the feelings of adults.
2006-12-23 23:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candice haha funny name....candice d!ck fit in you mouth
2006-12-24 22:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by wombizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋