Here's the situation, there's a girl who I've been hanging out with the past couple of weeks on and off and I'm having a hard time figuring out if she's interested in me or not. It's a long story but she dated one of my good friends years ago. Ever since the first time we met, we connected. We always stayed in touch, she calls or emails me 97% of the time. A couple of weeks ago we started hanging out more seriously and she was flirting with me hardcore, so I gave her a kiss and we started making out and then she stopped and said she had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't ready for this. So she continues to call me and I blow her off a few times, then I ended up going out with her again for her sister's birthday party and she's all over me, holding my hand, trying to kiss me every chance she can get. I still continue playing my cool role though and I met her last night for dinner and she's starts talking to me about her ex-boyfriend and how she went to dinner with him a
2006-12-23 15:20:37 · 9 answers · asked by newportshoresjd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
few nights ago with him and she wasn't sure if she was over him. I'm like what the heck, she tells me she doesn't know if she could be with him but there talking again. She then starts telling me how great of a FRIEND I was, I know that line. I ended up telling her I'm not hanging out with her anymore, I'm not a guy who gets thrown into the friends category or put on the backburner. She gets upset with me and tells me "Well we both know I'm not ready to get into a relationship right now." I didn't even argue back with her, I just left her house after that. I don't know if I should just write her off or maybe I should try showing more interest. One more thing, after we hooked up at her sister's party. She kept texting me telling me she couldn't stop smiling and she wanted so bad to be with me again. Everything was fine but I had a trip to Florida the following weekend and it seemed like after I mentioned that she was dissapointed and stopped showing those strong feelings. I don't know
2006-12-23 15:30:18 · update #1
Yeah I think most of you are right, she's confused and playing games with me. This usually doesn't happen to me, I'm a very attractive and successful guy. Usually the girls sweat me and I keep them guessing.
2006-12-23 15:45:18 · update #2
Your question cut off there a bit...
My feel is this, if you want to pursue this girl...don't take her seriously. Just have fun with the kissing and all. She is still confused with her own life so I definitely would NOT pursue a serious relationship at this time. Because if she does back away, then you won't feel so bad being that you aren't serious with her. If she does become stable and decides that she wants a relationship with you and you are cool with it, then go for it.
2006-12-23 15:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What mixed signals? She seems happy enough to keep your relationship going on a casual level with a bit of kissing and making out. She is clearly not ready for a commitment, as she has already indicated. So what's the problem? I'm guessing she's cute and fun to be with or you wouldn't be doing this. Just relax and enjoy it. Lots of guys would kill for a relationship as laid back as this.
2006-12-23 15:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's might b using u 2 get back at her x. Try being single 4 awhile.
2006-12-23 15:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by nadie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she's really think you guys are "friends" or the whole "friends with benefits" thingy or she's playing games with you back...keep blowing her off and see how bad she really wants you :)
2006-12-23 15:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are making all the right moves with her. You are playing games, she is playing games - its kismet! This could go on for years! Congratulations.
2006-12-23 15:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is: do you like/ love her?
if yes then you should continue to pursue this girl, but if no then you better just be a good friend to her.
2006-12-23 15:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE SHE PLAYING WITH YOUR HEAD AND YOU
REALLY DONT DESERVE THAT, TIME TO CUT YOUR LOSS
AND FIND SOMEONE THAT WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND ONLY YOU. THIS BACK AND FORTH NONSENSE IS CRAZY/
BUT AS LONG AS YOU CONTIUE TO TALK TO HER EMAIL
ETC, SHE WILL KEEP PLAY WITH YOU. ONLY YOU KNOW
WHEN ENOUGH ISENOUGH.
2006-12-23 15:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems she is naive even if u didnt finish the story so i dont really get your question
2006-12-23 15:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she is depressed with her last experience so she would be hesitating. make her beleive.
2006-12-23 15:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋