I gave birth three weeks ago and had a first degree tear, which was closed with stitches. How long does it take for the tear to heal enough for my husband and I to have sex again?
2006-12-23 15:07:08 · 30 answers · asked by Mandi R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
4-6 weeks. your doctor will give you the ok when you can resume sexual activity.
p.s. Some women take longer to heal, especially if this was your first baby. It may take up to 10 weeks before you feel 100% again.
2006-12-23 15:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any doctor will tell someone that recently gave birth to wait 6 weeks before having sex again. I had a c-section and i waited cause sex was the LAST thing on my mind. I did not have sex with my husband until 2 months after i had our son and that was by my choice. If it was left up to my husband we would have had sex like a week after i had our son. Men just don't get why a woman should wait and how some women just don't want to have sex so soon after having a baby.
I would wait the 6 weeks.
2006-12-23 15:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
the standard is 4 to 6 weeks. you should wait at least until the stiches disolve which takes about 2-3 weeks to at least ensure that you will not rerip the tear or cause an infection. also you should remember that you are just as fertile right after you give birth as you were before you got pregnant so i would make sure to use contraceptive, of course any hormonal type of contraceptive will not be affective at this point you will have to use a condom as i would not insert anything like a diaphram at this point and it is a given that a dr will not give you any other type of birth control till at least your 6 week check up. the golden rule on this one is if it hurts, stop. you could always alternative forms of sexual activity to help alleviate your urges until your dr oks you for sex. if you need help on what i mean, well, um, talk to your dr about that too. anyway, good luck and be careful.
2006-12-23 15:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by kissamedeadly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have had 3 children. after 2 of the deliveries I waited 6 weeks like I was told, but after 1 delivery I waited only 4 weeks and everything was fine. You know your own body and you know how you feel. If you try and it hurts at all stop for a while or wait the whole 6 weeks- thats not all THAT long to go without sex.
2006-12-23 15:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by cher9498 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A first degree tear is very minor and requires no extra healing time than no tear. I was always advised to what six weeks before engaging in sex again. But at six weeks you may still not feel up to it. All women are different and have different bodies.
2006-12-23 15:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Doctors will always tell you to wait at least 6 weeks. But really you can try whenever you feel it is right. You know your body best. And if it hurts too much you can stop and wait a little bit longer. I only waited like 3 weeks, and I had stitches, but everyone is different. And there's really nothing wrong with NOT waiting the full 6 weeks.
2006-12-23 15:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I waited two weeks. But a friend of mine waited 16 weeks because it took her that long to heal. It depends on your body really. You don't have to necessarily wait 6 weeks. That used to be the norm but not anymore. My doctor said we could resume having sex when it felt right and waiting 6 weeks was not required.
2006-12-23 15:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by kksundin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think most doctors say the usual wait is 3-6 weeks depending. I would ask for sure. You would not want to injure your stiched area, or cause any pain. I haven't gotten to the birth part yet, but i hear its anywhere up to 6 weeks before sex again is ok. Ask to be sure and good luck!
2006-12-23 15:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a nurse and father of 6 children. I've always been told to wait the standard 6 weeks. My wife and I didn't after the birth of our 3rd child and wound up with twins. I think the most important thing is to wait until both of you are ready for sex. Don't forget that there are other ways to please each other that don't include vaginal penetration. Have fun, and make things interesting. You might try going to an "Adults only shop" for some ideas.
2006-12-23 15:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by white wolf 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
6 weeks
2006-12-23 15:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by honeybear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋