just physical?

Question

so i am now thinking after 6 months, i might have a friends with benefits on my hands. i dont mind the physical stuff, and we both tell each other that we do love one another, but it seems that i do 10x the amount of work with the little things, gifts, going out of my way to see her etc. now i know she has a busy schedule, but she has had b/f's in the past to where she had to pay for everything, and take their crap. now i come along, she doesnt pay a dime for anything, always get treated like she is standing on a stage with a big spotlight shining bright just on her, and gets anything in general including that one on one attention we all want. so that's fine, but now after half a year, why am i doing everything, and not getting that special one on one with her. like she said that she was tired and didnt want to hang out. that's cool, turns around, and leaves to hang out with friends until 4am. should i admit all i am to her is a **** buddy with no strings??

Answer 1

Damn sounds like a situation I'VE been in. Dude run...run fast and run quickly...unless you can end the attraction and focus on the sex...run. Apparently she's contradicting the hell out of herself or just flat out lying as far as who she is and the whole "pay for everything" deal. And love is a strong word, shouldnt' be abused if there's really nothing there.

I got caught up in somethin similar, execpt i was more a rebound f*ck rather than just a f*ck buddy, and i'm not a playa or into the casual sex sh*t so I got attached pretty quick, and like the same situation it was a one-sided ordeal, as i was just a 'friend' so she can blab about her ex she broke up 24/7, and then not even CARE to help me get mine when she was done with her (yea she'd finish before me and called it a night....never thought that could happen..but...damn). Soooo that ended in a fiasco, she ended up goin back to her ex after some time...and i was left with a nasty memory of stupidity. So run man....don't get caught up in the game..not even for the sex dude...find a stable relationship if you're catching yourself falling in love like that...not someone willing to use you for everything, and give nothing in return just as willingly. Cause then if you have to discuss it with her, she obviously wasn't thinking about you in the first place, so then it worsens the situation if she has to be 'OBLIGATED' to return the favors.

Love is given willingly, not by force...if she hasn't put out on her side..then she obviously doesn't care.

Answer 2

You fell into the trap of doing everything for her. And in that sense, you've given her "power". She figures, if you don't do anything for her then she'll hold back her "trophy" from you so by doing everything, she has the power and is running with it.

Start treating her like "crap". Withhold doing things for her. Back away and stop making her the center of the universe. Two things....perhaps she'll realize what is going on and treat you nicer or she just won't give a crap. And for the latter, that may be a good things since you can move on....take the lessons learned here and not go all out of the way for anyone. It's gotta be an even road.

Answer 3

It sure sounds that way. Why don't you ask her about it. Be ready to dump or be dumped. All giving and no receiving is not worth the trouble. There are tons of women out there who will appreciate you.

Answer 4

IM SORRY TO SAY THIS BUT THAT JUST WHAT YOU ARE
AND TO BE HONEST , YOU REALLY SHOULD NOT BE
MAD, IT JUST WHAT BOTHOF YOU WANT. BUT NOW
THAT YOU HAVE DEVELOP FEELING MORE THEN WHAT IT
IS IT A PROBLEM. TIME TO TELL HER WHAT YOU REALLY
WANT OR YOU NEED TO LEAVE HER ALONE IF YOU
WANT MORE THEN SEX. IT SOUND LIKE YOU. DO. BUT
THAT THE PRICE OF FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS IT ALLWAY
MORE THEN IT IS. TRUST ME.

Answer 5

Yah. Some guys would think that's great, sounds like you might want more? Say Bye-Bye and see if she comes running or blows you off.
good luck.