He has given me a lot of stuff. He didn't ask for anything back but I'm wondering if I should give him at least the jewelry back. I don't know if I want to keep it or not. Should I just return it to him?
2006-12-23 14:43:24 · 27 answers · asked by NoDoubt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope. Gifts are gifts, they're not duration-of-the-relationship trinkets.
Keep them at least until your mind really settles; don't do anything rash while you're hurting. You may want to ebay some of it later and finance a splurge on something therapeutic :)
It'll get better. Sorry about the timing.
2006-12-23 14:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not unless they were stolen property! They are yours to keep, they were gifts, not something he leant you. So you're now free to do what you want with them, unless of course you would rather be free of them if they remind you too much of him or something.
It's up to you, you're free to give them back to him if you want and tell him you don't feel comfortable keeping them. But again, he did GIVE them to you, they were not leant to you, so either way, have no guilt about it at all.
I never gave back any stuff I got, but some people do return it as a way of saying "Here, take it back, I don't want it anymore".
See how you feel.
2006-12-23 14:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't ask 4 it back...then keep it. U want 2 show him ur not going 2 b all down over the break up or whatever.
2006-12-23 14:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by nadie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep every single item. I returned some stuff when I broke up with my ex and I totally regret it. I could have made a cool fortune on eBay!
2006-12-23 14:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by caribbeanbabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you don't want to. Don't return it to be nice to him, whatever you do. Give it back if it would help you to feel you're cutting the emotional ties-- or keep it, give it to friends or family members who would wear it and not have the negative associations, or sell it. It's totally up to you!
2006-12-23 14:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my ex broke up with me, i dumped all his things that he ever gave me for the past 6 years. He never asked me to return, any but it was my way of saying, I dont ever need his gifts to carry on, and plus they held memories which I dont need if i wanna carry on with life..
2006-12-23 14:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by hUNnEy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to give them back and they are yours to sell on ebay if you want... I don't think I would want to keep all of the gifts around. Giving them back would just mean more time you'd have to see him...
2006-12-23 14:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by hokiegirlvt79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on ur mental situation. if u also dumped him from ur heart, then u should give those things back to him. If u realy loves him still now, then u should keep those things as his memory. these things is a symbol of his love.So, keep it & love him. may be some day he will be back to you.
2006-12-23 14:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by ferdousprogrammer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til you're less emotional about it, then decide. If you think that there's a chance of you getting back together, I'd just stuff them in a shoe box and put it in your closet.
2006-12-23 16:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Up an Evolutionary Tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont mind having constant reminders of your relationship than keep it otherwise give it all back to him. I would rather give it back than have the reminder but, its totally up to you, everyone is different
2006-12-23 14:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋