between 2 guys...
2006-12-23 14:40:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Would you keep the baby? if you knew thta you would have to raise it on your own... but you were in your mid 30's and really want a baby.
2006-12-23 14:46:23 · update #1
Whoa.... I can just imagine your not liking the answers your getting from people.. It's not like your the only one in the world that has ran into this problem. Society is so screwed up anymore and some people have NO compassion for other people. PATERNITY TESTING!! Just because you have no idea on who the father is, doesn't mean you have to have an abortion. You don't even have to stay with the proven father because of the child. You can still be the best mom with out the father. Take his into consideration.. Women get artificially inseminated everyday. Do you think they know who the "Father" is? NO!! My aunt is one of them. She is a awesome mother and has NO man helping her raise the baby as "Dad"! The point is: You can still be a good mother even though right now you have no idea who the father is. Good Luck and ignore all the trash talk against you.
2006-12-23 15:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you are asking? How to resolve the situation? First of all if you aren't responsible enough to determine the parternity to your unborn child, you probably aren't responsible enough to consider being a parent! Which ever guy turns out to be the father, don't continue a relationship with him just on the basis of the child. Own up to your mistakes, and quickly! you have some very big decisions to make and soon!
I knew who the father of my child was and DID decide to raise him on my own and I was only 18 at the time! He is now 17 and it was the best decision I ever made! My best advice to you is if you decide to keep your child, find out immediately who the father is. Always be honest to your child about who his father is. My son just recently felt the need to reunite with his father. Due to the fact I had been honest with him from the start, Things are going quite well. If I would have lied to him, or kept him from finding him, he may have wound up hating me. you should give the father a chance to be a father to your child, it should be his decision. In my case no influence was better than a bad influence, because years ago he was not who he is today.
2006-12-23 22:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by shelby_re 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course! Regardless if you want the baby or not. You and whomever made it. You both chose to have unprotected sex. Its not the babys fault. You could 1 of 2 things. Have the baby, and later get a dna with both men, and just tell them the truth. Or just have the baby, and raise it on your own. But think long term- what are going to tell your child when they ask where their dad is, and don't you think that other person needs to know hey.. I have a kid out there.. even if they don't want a thing to with the baby..
2006-12-24 03:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes sh** happens! A baby can be raised just fine with or without 2 parents. It is only fair that the father would know so he has the opportunity to also be a part of this childs life however. be responsible and keep that baby and give it the best life you can !
2006-12-23 22:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions, "Does it matter who the father is? Why do you want to know? Is it for means of collecting child support? Do you want to know because you want to marry one of the men? Do you need either one of them in your life?" My girlfriend and I had a child at the age of 15. We tried to raise the baby on our own, and 18 months later let her older sister adopt him because things weren't working out between us. Zachary was raised knowing his adoptive parents as his aunt and uncle, while his mother and I remained active in his life. Zachary is now 19 years-old, and attending college. Zachary came to live with my wife and I when he was 16 years-old, and is a very important part of my life. If you want this baby, give him/her a chance at life. Please remember, there are many couples out there that aren't able to have children, and would give anything in the world to raise the baby as their own if you're not able to, or don't want to.
2006-12-23 23:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by white wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to determine who the father is, is to have paternity tests done after the baby is born.
2006-12-23 22:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you should be more responsible and not sleep with 2 men. Keep the baby and then test for whom the father is. Then call Jerry Springer.
2006-12-23 23:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though you don't know who the father is you know you are the mother!! Get paternity test after baby born so the right one can be responsible for support. (payment)
2006-12-23 23:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by holliemay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have them get a paternity test when the baby is born...that is your only choice
2006-12-23 22:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by Aimee M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. The bigger issue is, you had unprotected sex with two men. I think that makes you foolish and immoral. So, should a foolish immoral woman raise a baby? NO. Give it up for adoption and try to act more like your age.
2006-12-23 22:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋