me to chill? I only talk to her quite a bit (unfortunaetly) in school cuz i dont wanna be shallow and tell her to f off. But if she ever asks to chill wit me outside school, wat am i gonna say? She is also very ugly.
2006-12-23 14:26:18 · 13 answers · asked by el k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant just continue saying "not interested" or "im busy today" when she keeps asking everytime to chill wit me.!
2006-12-23 14:31:01 · update #1
she has acne, dresses like a nerd and wears glasses and she dont got a nice face or body. SOOOO it aint dat easy to say "looks dpnt matter"
2006-12-23 14:32:09 · update #2
Well ask her right of the bat if she's into anal. That should get her running for her life. If not then enjoy ...
2006-12-23 14:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry Taster 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though your question seems shallow you obviously don't want to hurt her feelings, and have tried to be nice to her. You could tell her that you are very busy after school, and that you will let her know when you do have the time to hang out. If she continually bothers you, it shows that she has some problems respecting boundaries, tell her nicely but more assertively that you just don't have enough in common with her to have a friendship and that you would like it if she would stop asking to "chill". Try to be as nice as possible but if she is getting your email, etc. without your knowledge that shows signs of instability.
and i don't think that you are shallow even though everyone else is quick to judge and tell you that you are.
2006-12-23 14:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by saphireyes718 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as you consider her to be ugly, other people might think that of you as well. None of us is perfect and therefore we should not look down on other people. Maybe her outside is unattractive, but have you looked at her inside? Is she a nice person or did you already judge the book by its cover? Okay, so you don't want to be in a relationship with her, but couldn't you be friends? Is it her fault for being 'ugly'? Is it a crime? Is it a 'bad' thing and should she be condemned by society to be rejected for the rest of her life? Put yourself in her shoes for one day. If you don't have mercy on others, no one will have mercy on you.
2006-12-23 14:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you really are bieng shallow. Looks aren't everything you know... give her a chance and if you're so shallow that you can't get over her apperances than tell her the truth. Don't lead her on, but you never know you may find out she's pretty cool after all.
2006-12-23 14:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
YOU are nice to be concerned about not hurting her feelings. I used to be an ugly duck....but surprised them all.......but that's another story.
Don't avoid her. Just say something nice and get on with your life. Tell her that she reminds you of your cousin/sister and you could never really hang with her even though she is nice. I got that alot when I was a dog...(but the guys needed help with their homework.)
2006-12-23 14:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her looks shouldn't have anything to do with it. If you don't have anything in common with her and dont really get along with her, you should tell her. It's worse to string her along like this. Be nice to her when you tell her how you feel, it's always hard to be told people dont want to be your friend. and whatever you do, don't mention her looks, thats shallow and not a reason to brush somebody off.- just tell her she's not your type...
2006-12-23 14:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by cher9498 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! How about trying to be honest with her? It would only hurt her more to string her along and make her think that you like her.
2006-12-23 14:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if u dont know this girl then i think u should give her a chance and hang out with her but if u know her and u dont like her personality then dont bother
2006-12-23 14:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by trish m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if she's ugly!
Maybe she's a realllyyyyy good person
and really nice.
If you don't have a girlfriend
then take the chance and meet her.
Don't b gay!!!
2006-12-23 14:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Olly Olly Ox En Free 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
mayeb she is ugly, but i bet one date with her wouldnt hurt. when other girls see a cute guy with an ugly girl, they want to date him too. ever see shallow hal???
2006-12-23 14:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by beatles luver 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋