He coerced her into taking a shower w/ him even though he sd no! He then touched her and made her touch him. Of course we are prosecuting.... I just do not know what to expect
2006-12-23 14:12:08 · 26 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
If someone is bent on molesting, there is no cure. It is a sexual preference. He might stop for fear of punishment, but he'll still think it / desire it / masturbate over it, etc. He'll always do it again given the chance. You can't change that sexual any more than you can "treat" a homosexual into heterosexual or "treat" a heterosexual to be a homosexual.
2006-12-23 14:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as for being treatable that is NOT a decision you will have to make BUT I am glad that you are taking action against him family or NOT, this goes beyond what can be sorted out within a family, I must warn you tho that the fall out may well be more than you think it will be.....................
I take it you have already called the police, which should be the 1st step and from there they will guide you to the right places, where she will be interviewed in a very child friendly area with highly trained people asking her questions, [you can usually observe via a one way mirror] she will be shown dolls that are very clear with all their bits and be asked what who how...... from that point a decision will be made IF there is enough to actually press the charges and make then stick, even if there is NOT even enough evidence you will have done the right thing in doing the very best you can to protect your child.........
Interested to know how come the 15 year old had the time frame to get the 7yr old into the shower............was he baby sitting her?? if so this MUST be raised with the family and the police that he should NOT be left alone with other kids
Good luck
2006-12-23 14:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...that is a very sick and twisted mind...most sexual molesters are repeat offenders. You should prosecute...I would go for the toughest prosecution you can get. His parents should be held accountable. A child doesn't get to be that way all on his own.
As for being treatable, it's a shot in the dark. I agree he might have been molested which is why he needs to have therapy, to get to the root and truth of it, but as to whether he will come out a saint and never re-offend...I doubt it.
I'm just not very lenient when it comes to sexual offenses. They should not be taken lightly. A leopard rarely changes its spots.
2006-12-23 14:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the district attorney he might be tried as a adult or if it was a one time isolated offense then it might be refereed to family court.Either way the charges against him will be anywhere from child molestation to first degree sexual assault.The court will listen to both the prosecutors ideas as well as the accused's lawyer as far as punishment. At the very least the accused will face psychological therapy,probation,a fine and community service.At the most he Will face a stint in a juvenile correctional center or if he was tried as a adult a prison sentence with therapy while there and probation after he is released.As for the cousin that he molested.She has to be made to understand that what her cousin did to her was wrong BUT NOT HER FAULT IN ANY WAY AND WHATEVER HAPPENS TO HER COUSIN IS ALSO NOT HER FAULT.And hopefully with therapy she will be able to put what happened behind her as she grows up.Though she should be watched VERY CAREFULLY During and after the therapy session time for signs of fear of men and possible thoughts of hurting herself.Being that she's so young and hopefully does not really understand sexual things she should be OK.Though this might come back many,many years from now when she starts having adult relationships with men.But hopefully it won't. My family and I feel so much sorrow for what happened and we all wish you and your family great strength in dealing with this terrible tragedy.
2006-12-23 14:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A situation like this is always sad especially when the abuser is a child them self. I'm sure the 15 yr. old was probably molested when he was younger and that has led him to this. Unfortunately, pedophiles don't get better. They have done many tests, and none of them ever get better. The pedophiles learn new techniques to hide what they are doing. Most of the time they eventually take it a step further and end up killing their victims to cover up their horrific acts. In my opinion, he is damaged and will forever be damaged.
2006-12-23 15:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is gonna pay the price for this crime. The courts are NOT light on this situation. They will probably get DSS involved if not already and he will have stipulations on age groups he can be around and not be left around kids by himself and probation. Depending on his history in school and behavior is what they will look at to see some of it. Next thing is he will be a sex offender...and it may be there the rest of his life. But do expect your child will have to testify. I have seen this before and it can get very irritating. But as far as "treatable" goes.....he will be at risk and have a hard go around if he ever attempts and gets caught again. Push hard for the MOST to happen to him, so he sees what a crime this is. Very sad and I am sorry for you!
2006-12-23 14:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to catch these kids earlier and younger! Prosecution is great as long as there is some meaningful therapy! The time is now, not later when he becomes a predator!
I bet you that the 15 year old was molested when he was about 7! Wonder what family member did that?
2006-12-23 14:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have worked with these children before. He is treatable. But, he needs to learn to obey laws of this land also. And if that means some time away so be it. It is so sad...
Don't know all of he details, but the Judge could just sentence him to treatment and maybe not, so be ready for anything. And it will be a strain on your family and his - going through all of this won't be easy, but if he gets help now, he has a good chance of never doing it again. And in a lot of cases, children or teens that do this, has had this happen to them. Good luck and may God be with you and your family through this difficult time.
2006-12-23 14:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I am so sorry for the loss of trust and her loss of innocence. Realistically 'treatment' is not going to be a cure. Of course he is 'treatable', in the way AIDS is. This young man has some real control issues. Please see that he gets treatment so that whoever molested him comes to justice. I am so sorry, dear, but someone did molest him, this doesn't appear from thin air. God bless all of you.
2006-12-23 16:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is treatable. Everyone is treatable.
He's 15. It'd be a shame to give up on someone at such a young age. He has hope. At least, I have hope for him. If he gets out of the environment that led him to this path in life, he has hope.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-23 14:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋