what would you do?

Question

if your fiancee's parents were always so rude to you and you ask him what there problem is and he says they dont have one (when it is so obvious that they do) and you feel so out of place and birthdays, dinners and other family occassions. i love him but he is always defending his family then i get into trouble for saying how i feel and that his family is so rude and can be violent. Please help as i am so not liking the whole christmas thing

We have had this conversation with his parents and they reakon they dont have a problem but then they turn all strange again. i feel that he is hiding something that they have said about me but if it were his brothers girlfriend butter wouldnt melt in her mouth the rest of the family dont like her for a number of reasons (apart from his parents who love the ground she walks on) i do nothing wrong and his parents hate me. they say i speak to him rudely but they need to think they have never heard him speak to me like it. Its not a one way street

Answer 1

I know how you feel. My boyfriend is an only child and his parents wont let him grow up. They are in his life ALL the time. They are extremely annoying. Especially his mother. And they are cheap! Parents can be a problem. You probably are not imagining it. But it is not okay for them to be rude to you. They should be trying to make you feel comfortable. Unless there is a reason they dont like you that your boyfriend is just too afraid to tell you. But he should be trying to make you feel better. And Ive learned from experience...they usually always take their parents side. My boyfriend and I have gotten in fights about that. Hes really defensive when it comes to his parents. You need to sit and talk with him. Thats the only way this can get resolved. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable because you feel like his parents are rude to you and dont like you. And ask him to try and not be defensive because your not talking bad about his parents. Your just telling him how your feeling. And its been bothering you. And that you want to be accepted and feel like hes on your side too. Because he should be making sure you feel comfortable around his family. You would do that for him. Just out of kindness and respect for one another. Well good luck and I hope you have a good Christmas.

Answer 2

Well you really shouldn't care what they think of you. Sometimes parents have a hard time accepting their child's mate. However if they are being out right rude to you that is a problem. If you are going to be his wife you need to sit and have a serious chat about his prioties. I love my parents to death but if they were ever rude to someone I love and plan to marry they would hear a few words from me. If he can't stick up for you now there could be serious problems down the road.

Answer 3

Ummmm well if it were me, I would speak my mind and tell my significant other how I feel and that they need to realize what's happening and to please help do something about it. My whole family is rude to me. So I just don' t do Christmas with my family. I go to the girlfriends. Well, this year. But, Personally I would just say fine, if you won't stick up for me I won't go because I am tired of them being rude. Just don't let him try to bring yours and his relationship into the conversation.

Good luck!!!! Merry Christmas

Answer 4

Man i dont blame u. He should defend his parents but also realize u are his wife and respect what you say. I guess just keep tryin to be nice to them and ignore the fact they are rude cuz sometimes u just have to in a relationship. I mean you married their baby so maybe that has somethin to do with it. It cant last forever they will give in

Answer 5

be the bigger person
act like nothing at all is being said to you
and make it true, make nothing in the world they can ever do or say to you will bother you, you must know how school yard bullies are, if they know they are getting to you, they do it all the more, but once they figure out nothing is bothering you at all, they back off, even if they never back off, be the bigger person and make yourself learn to blow off everything they do and say..you can learn to just have a good time and SMILE, it can work..try it. but try it for a few months,, absolutely do not even let one hair on you get out of place, stay PERFECT, that may get to them

good luck
smile
and
God Bless

Answer 6

This is your fiancee? You're planning to marry this guy? Just think about one thing honey, if you marry him, your stuck with his family every holiday, birthdays and B.B.Q's. Dump the guy. Niether he nor his family know what respect and kindness are.

Answer 7

He isn't being considerate of your feelings. He should talk to his family about their conflict with you, because you are his soon to be wife. He is suppose to be by yourside as well. You are the one he will be intimate with, having children with, and he can't take up for you? I fhe can't do that, then you either deal with it or break it off. You are going to be their family, they should want to get along with you.



Krazy Libra

Answer 8

you need to have a serious conversation with your future husband regarding this. If he can't see any problem, but you insist there is, then you both need to get to counseling as soon as possible before this gets so out of hand that it will be impossible to fix.

Answer 9

well i was called a c=nt once, so im not the one to answer this one because i didnt punch his dad in the face i just walked away!
the best part i did nothing to deserve it, and the only one who defnded me was his cousin!

Answer 10

well u r not the only one out there
mabey they dont like the fact there son is gettin married some ppl still see their children as if they are little and they dont not want to see them grow up
but im not sayin they r like that