I asked a question a while ago and people where kinda mean. I thought that people where ganna help not tell me to get a life. I can't help who I like. I just want to know what I should do! Please just edvice no bashing I'm vary confused
2006-12-23 14:03:08 · 10 answers · asked by Dark_light 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
IN a biological sense, it is pretty normal for girls to be attractive to older men. Girls tend to mature faster than boys.....In a legal sense, it is not good to get too intimate with this guy, so don't try it! It would cause major legal problems and it could risk him going to jail depending on the state you live in if you engage in sexual activity together.
Anyway, I'm sure you really like him, but try to keep other options open right now. You are going through a lot of changes in life right now, and you may find someone else you like.
2006-12-23 14:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with the age difference only you'd be better prepared for a relationship with an older guy if you were 15 or 16. At 14, older guys can sometimes get girls to do things they don't want to do. When you are 18 and that guy is 21 there will be no difference. It's hard to believe, but for every year we are here on earth we gain wisdom and knowledge. Something you'd do now, you'd never do 2 years from now. Whatever you decide just be careful and make sure it's something you want to do and that you know all the consequences of your actions.
2006-12-23 22:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by DNA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things to like about an older guy when you are 14.... but if I could give you one single greatest piece of advice I'd say, "Dont try to grow up so fast- enjoy where you are at 14- go out with other 14 year olds- you'll be 17 some day and then 21, and then 35, ect.... This is the only time in your life you can be a kid and its ok... enjoy it!! (He'll expect you to behave older and you don't need to).
2006-12-23 23:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tabitha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to like anyone, but at 14 you don't have a lot in common with a 17 year old. In a year or two the age difference won't matter quite so much. It might not seem fair, but he will soon be considered an adult and you will not.
As an adult, he can get in trouble if he goes too far with a minor ( I'm not saying he will --I don't know him.) But he needs to think about that.
I'm sorry that other people don't seem to take you seriously. For you, this is a serious problem.
2006-12-23 22:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to like whoever you feel the need to like without people telling you otherwise. I think if you know this 17 year old to be safe and not into drugs or gangs or something than you are fine to like such a guy! :) when your 14 age starts to matter less and less. I'm 14 and I like a lot of older guys too. As long as their not creeps who are control freaks you'll be fine.
2006-12-23 22:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - I'm sorry people have to be such a**holes instead of being simple and just answering the question. (If you're going to be mean just stay away!!)
Anyway, I was in the exact situation when I was your age. My advice is to be wise and keep your eyes very open when it comes to how he treats you and how far you allow yourself to go with someone who's so much older and probably more experienced. I say that because i was taken advantage of - me being young and naive (not saying you are). It really sucks to be hurt so basically all i'm saying is be careful with yourself, for example if you choose sex, be safe, very very safe. (no sex is safe sex!!) :)
And no, i don't think it's wrong in any type of way for you to like or be with him- as they say - age is just a number. It all determines how mature one is. Do what YOU feel is right regardless of what others think because in the end, thats all that really matters.
2006-12-23 22:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by BJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As one goes through puberty one begins to experience a large amount of changes...one change is for people to look to older and more mature people and develope crushes...I and many in my family has had this experience. My advice is to let time take its course...if you are really serious in a couple of years look him up. Most of the time people just grow out of it. Hope that was good enough...Merry Christmas or Holidays!
2006-12-23 22:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not wrong. Even a friend/friend or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship isn't wrong. It's only wrong if you and him are having intercourse. Because of his age, it the wrong person found out, the could get charged with statutory rape. I wouldn't see why you wouldn't be allowed to find company within him... Make sure your parents approve of it, though.
2006-12-28 01:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by rzr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did almost the same thing in high school, but if you think about it, when you become an adult, people marry others that are 10 years apart from each other and so on, is it really so wrong? probably not
2006-12-28 16:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by americansugar80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think its that weird so don't worry. it depends how grown up you are as a person and what the guy/girl your going out with or want to go out with is like. Its not that bad just take care and you should be fine :).
2006-12-24 00:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by Wonx2150 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋