Geeeeeeeeeeee, I never thought I would still be single at 33 yrs old. .... Life has been testy for me, I've been hurt, bursed and lonely. I never thought I would say this. But I am attractive independent girl. I've had good and bad relationships. But this is not what I wanted.... I wanted to have three kids and a great man in life. I have serious trust issues............ And don;t know how to let go of them............ I've meet someone... And we both have major past relationships problems... We are learning to workout our problems....... But I am sacred... I am scared to waste time......... How can I find out if his thee one..... with wasting time...
2006-12-23 13:53:48 · 15 answers · asked by Sassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is never a way of knowing this upfront. If that were the case, no one would ever get divorced or break up. You're 33 years old, you should understand something as simple as this.
2006-12-23 13:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just get married to have kids and be happier, do it because you love someone sooooo much, that you HAVE to be with them your whole life. And say this to yourself, would you rather be single and free to flirt all u want and do whatever u want, or be married just for the heck of it, so you would probably eventually get divorced and put your 3 kids in that situation. Live your life. You have family, friends, and everything you need married or not. If you think you can handle it, adopt kids that really need a home and never get married. You are beautiful, confident, strong, and independent so if you find the absolute perfect guy for you, Great if you don't so what life will go on!!!!!
2006-12-23 22:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both learning to work through your problems - I would say that is a good sign. Do you feel you have wasted your time up to this point? If not, don't start a self fulfilling prophecy. Start being positive about your self. If you get to the point were you feel really good about who you are. Then your decisions should be sound. Would you both be willing to go through some counseling. Having an objective third party look at things with you can really help.
2006-12-23 22:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't find out instantly- only time will tell. I can see why you're impatient, but it's really important that you don't come of too strong or rush things because that scares even the nicest men away. If you just relax and let things take it's course you will discover his true colors and at the same time love between the two of you can develop or get stronger. I wish you the best.
2006-12-23 21:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck girl, you never know, even after 20 years of marriage. Just go with the flow and stop worrying about where you should be by a certain age. Most people who are where they're supposed to be by your age (i.e. married, a couple kids, two car garage, etc.), are f*cking unhappy. If you're happy now, just accept it for what it is and don't analyze the f*cking thing to an early grave.
2006-12-23 21:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it might be time to pack it in and resign yourself to role of "cat lady." If you were a guy, I would tell you that you have learned your lesson - that it's better just to be alone and autonomous. Relationships only drag us down and hold us back. But you are a woman. And women have this crazy notion and need for relationships and true love and all that other nonsense. Which is why I suggested the cat lady role. It ain't so bad though - cats need love, too!
2006-12-23 22:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just stay the way you are and the Good Lord will work with it. Dump the deadend Dans and the Greedy Gus'. You're worthy and you know it. I'll say a special prayer now that you
will be blessed with prosperity now and in 2007.
2006-12-23 22:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by sheree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. But you have to trust others first, so you can have serious relationship. If you think your attractive then, you don't have problem with self-esteem issues. But don't look for Mr. Right, he will come to you. If he don't come to you by the time your 34, I suggest you look for him....LOL
2006-12-23 22:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I'm a 34yo single father. If you think you have it tough, how do you think I'm doing?? A failed marriage and a major change in life direction wasn't in my plans, and being extraordinarily single isn't great....
Just relax, and it'll work out in the long run...
2006-12-23 22:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you have a problem with trust.
sit down ,lean back and think.
take time to consider.
is this the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
if not then say goodbye but if yes then go for it without second thoughts or hesitations
2006-12-23 21:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋