Is she bipolar?

Question

I love my girlfriend to death.

But sometimes she gets into these weird crazy moods where she wont explain why shes mad/upset,or even if shes upset/mad,she just gives me the silent treatment.
I have no idea what to do either.
And about an hr later, shes happy.
I dont understand.
I know over the summer, she was kinda depressed over her ex,always harrassing her.
What do I do?
Ive tried talking but I guess she feels uncomfortable or something.

Answer 1

First of all, my wife is bipolar and I love her to death. To the person who says, "Run, don't walk," I hope you never need help or understanding with any illness you may have...because when someone you need leaves you, you will be devastated. And I don't care what my wife's illness does to me or us, it's not HER doing it--I made a promise to her that I'll never leave her no matter what.

Your girlfriend definitely exhibits the hallmark symptoms of bipolar: weird, crazy upset mood swings, refusal to address problems, depression. However, none of us here are doctors and shouldn't try to diagnose the problem on our own, especially since we've never met her.

My advice? When she's not in a bad mood (trying to have a rational conversation with a bipolar person in a mood swing is impossible), explain to her calmly that you love her but her behavior, even if she cannot control it right now, is not acceptable to your relationship. Tell her that you will support her and that having a mental illness is NOTHING to be ashamed of, in fact, someone who can live with something so hard should be proud of themselves.

But be firm: Tell her that in order for you to continue the relationship, she MUST talk to a doctor. And if she is diagnosed with bipolar, she MUST take medication for it, because it is a necessity for virtually all bipolar people to remain stabilized. If she is not willing to confront the disease (if she has it) that is affecting both of you, then you need to let her go. If she is not willing to change, then she is determined to be miserable permanently and being with her will only make you miserable.

That being said, bipolar or any other mental illness is highly treatable. It will be a long, hard road, but it will be worth it if you and her were meant to be together. Bipolar people are some of the most loving, creative people you will ever meet. They require more patience and understanding than you ever thought possible, but it's worth it. Oh, and if she is diagnosed bipolar, don't hesitate to get this book: http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Someone-Bipolar-Disorder-Julie/dp/1572243422/sr=1-1/qid=1167157538/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/105-2744551-5313205?ie=UTF8&s=books. It's helpful. Good luck.

Answer 2

There is no need to run from your girlfriend if she is Bipolar.
It's simply an illness such as diabetes, etc.

Many people are ignorant and simply stereotype those with Bipolar Disorder. People who are uneducated don't realize that many with Bipolar Disorder are employed, have families and function just like the rest of us. Bipolar can simply make life a little harder when dealing with a constant state of depression.

If the need arises, there is medication and therapy that can help your girlfriend to live a normal life.
You may want to encourage her to see a doctor or join a support group, on or off line.

The site below has information about symptoms and episodes of Bipolar Disorder. The site also has information regarding different types of depression.


For the person that said "walk, don't run".......educate yourself before answering another question.

Answer 3

A womans "moods' can stem from various things, alot of the time its chemical /hormonal...wether we want to admit it or not. No we arnt talking menstral once a month. Not everything can be blamed on that lol... But the variations and balance can be knocked a bit by our sleep , eating, and overall patterens. Taking a vitamin, or hormone replacment pill, to gain that balance can help some wemon... also try natural things too! NOW talking about , mental health conditions, does your girlfriend, feel depressed, for minuites, days somtimes weeks, and then become manic and moving about, talking about this or that, and has so much energy she feels almost able to do anything? People with Bipolar have a lot more going on with them than just a fluctuation in moods, but bipolar is usually suvere and marked. Start small, and think about biochemical and your body, and then move on to mental health... lots of things trigger us emotionally and mentally when our body is trying to tell us somthing, wether it be simple habbit change or fluctuations in our hormones, and chemicals that need balance. But you might not just jump into a conversation about mental health with her, start slow and tell her to take it easy and relax, and pamper her. If she comfides in you that she feels unstable, and overwelmed, then move on to the mental health aspect. Stay connected and seek support-- goodluck!

Answer 4

Sounds like it might be PMS but if this is happening regularly she just might be a moody person. I know I can get in really nasty moods, and try to keep away from people when i get in them (and there is no reason i get like this). When she gets in one of her moods try to let it go, and then when she is herself again thats when you should try and talk to her about it. It doesnt sound like bipolar to me. Bipolar (my cousin has it) is very severe, they usually get "highs" where they can not sit still are cleaning everything, buying expensive things, talking a mile a minute, just some of the things i have seen. Then they get really "down" at anytime...crying outbursts, sleeping a lot, just very depressed. These highs and lows can come at anytime, one minute high then the next low. She might has a very mild case? But it doesnt sound like it to me anyways...hope this helps

Answer 5

unless she gets depressed where there seems to be no reason.
or she has periods where she goes days without sleep or very little sleep.starts pressured speach i.e. she cant seem to quit talking,does things that are risky(spend too much money,starts
risky sexual behavior).then its not bipolar.you can look up all the
symtoms online at webmd or even typing in bipolar symtoms.
have a merry christmas.

Answer 6

Run don't walk!
She sounds like a life time of heart ache.