Seriously, if I wanted an over weight girlfriend,I would have asked an overweight girl out. I started dating a slender fit woman, now she is getting sloppy, why am I shallow for not wanting a fat girl?
2006-12-23 13:42:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not wanting a fat girl implies that you are basing your selection of females upon appearance. If you can get past the shallowness of that, then you're fine. However, if you found an overweight girl who fit every other standard that you could possibly set and rejected her simply because of her weight, that would imply shallowness. It sounds to me like you're looking for physical gratification rather than an emotional connection.
2006-12-23 13:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are not looking into the person. If you liked her "self" when she was thin, you should like her "self" now. Is she getting sloppy or just overweight? If she is getting sloppy, I think you have the right to tell her tactfully that she is and maybe you could help her clean out her closet and go shopping for some more appropriate outfits. If she is getting fat, why do you think she is. Maybe she is depressed, bored, not exercising enough besides eating more than her body needs. You can help her by not nagging about it. Also, find activities that you can do together that are fun like rollerblading, swimming, joining a gym together. When you go out to eat, pick places that have healthier choices. Be a roll model and a partner - not a negative ******. Good luck
2006-12-23 21:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the reason u dont want an overweight girlfriend is because u want her to be healthy....then no. but if it is because u want to have sex with a good body then yes. what if the woman of ur dreams is overweight? what if u pass her up?? i can understand wanting an attractive pardner but good looks does not make love. u will be ina horrible relationship if you measure your love by how "sexy" it is. some day when you grow old, u could be bald and fat with a potbelly and she will still love you...as u will love her with her stomach rolls and old granny glasses....yet ur love will last until and beyond your death.
2006-12-23 21:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by CJS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I turned down a fat guy who smoke.... and
I thought it was a big mistake.
I should have dated that person and maybe marrying him...
and then maybe I could throw out all of his ashtray,
pack of ciggy, foods out of the refrigerator, and do most
of the cooking for him and get him on strict diet, cut down
butter and salt and sweet, take his money so he won't
go to the store and buy some food or cigarettes....
And compliment him how sexy he looks when he
doesn't smell like smoke and how thinner he gets.
I should have done that... maybe you should too.
2006-12-23 21:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I am willing to bet you would not want those superficial rules applied to yourself.
For example: some day you may gain weight, you may start to lose your hair, hearing, eyesight, etc. etc.
Would you then want your partner at the time to turn around and say: Oh no, when I started dating him, he could hear and see perfectly, he's damaged goods now, throw him onto the scrap heap?
2006-12-23 21:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not shallow, but you are if you only want fitness in a relationship. It's your girlfriend's body, and however she feels comfortable, let her feel that way. If she wants to lose weight, fine, encourage her, but don't feel disgusted because she gained a few pounds. It happends to many women in different situations.
Krazy Libra
2006-12-23 21:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. We all have our likes and dislikes. Fat, thin, Chocolate, vanilla, Cold, warm...blah, blah, blah. Don't let society make you feel uncomfortable for picking what's right for you. But if you don't want to be with a fat girlfriend, don't stay there and make her feel bad about herself. If she wants to be fat, that's her choice (it would seem). So move on and get what you want out of life and be happy!
2006-12-23 21:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i could sort of understand but it depends on why are you concerned about her healthy, and what you consider fat?
btw ""the instinct of the d**k. it wants tight *****, fit to hit """
you don't have to fit to be tight... shows how much that person knows....
its shallow if thats all you really care about if not then no...
2006-12-23 21:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by crystal j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this- a fat girl wont cheat on you. A skinny girl will, a fat girl will be happy as **** that you want her. And guess what? Fat girls know HOW to get it on. People write songs about that crap all the time. "Fat bottom girls you make the rockin world go round!"
Think about it.
2006-12-23 21:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by . S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, it's shallow. But you are attracted to what you are attracted to. She probably thought you were sincere when you first started dating too.
2006-12-23 21:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋