ok. I almost never feel any physical attraction to any guys in real life ( wit the acception of two guys). Every single guy that everyone on my friends or any girl for that matter thinks is hot i never see anything special. Not only that but i havent had a crush in 3 years.( Just two guys). Right now the only thing that seems to turn me on is prn , the only thing in the prn that turns me on is the girls. Whats so strange is that if i ever imagined myself with a girl from school or anywhere else for that matter i just dont feel an attraction and i feel kinda sick ( not that i have anything againts lesbians i just would never be able to bring myself to have sex with a girl). In real life all i think about is these two guys.( i made several posts about one of them, he has a girlfriend) Its gotten to the point where i am questioning my sexuality. I have been depressed latley becasue i feel lonely and i want 2 know what it feels like to be in a relationship but my lack of crushes limit me.
2006-12-23 13:39:32 · 14 answers · asked by nilleh 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes i did but i have to keep reasking because i have to keep changing it becasue they said i was violating something AND I DONT KNOW WHAT IT is.
2006-12-23 13:48:34 · update #1
If I were a female, I'd DEFINITELY be a lesbian! Maybe even a lebian! :)
2006-12-23 13:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I don't think that you are a lesbian. It doesn't sound that way to me. It seems to me that you may be really focused on these two guys so much that you may not notice other guys that may like you. Porn has a way of affecting our brains that can put you into a fantasy world where everything happens the way you imagine it. Unfortunately it will hurt future relationships because the objective of porn is self gratification not love.
That being said, people struggle with their sexuality at some point or another. I know of a girl that wondered about the same thing because she did not have a boyfriend in a while and her friends would make an issue about it but it turned out that she just didn't feel like dropping her panties to any guy that shows her interest. As a result she thought maybe she was not attractive and her interest in guys waned but not that she was interested in girls.
But as for being a lesbian that is an act based on what you prefer you can even be attracted to females but if you don't act on it you are not a lesbian. I think we feel we must label ourselves too much. We are not rubber stamped gay or straight so don't jump to conclusions on your sexuality.
You said you have been feeling depressed and I think that you depression is leading you to think that you are not attractive or maybe you are really a lesbian.
I would suggest picking up a hobby or joining a club or something where you can meet some new people and see how that goes. Even exercising would be good for your body and to make you feel good about yourself. Have you ever noticed after vigorous exercise you feel tired but kinda happy? that's because your body releases endorphines and that is like morphine for your brain and it is kinda cool since it is all natural and you can't get addicted, well not really :)
I wish you the best but stay cool and be yourself, I know for a fact there is always some guy that notices a girl that thinks no one is noticing her.
You are not naturally attracted to females, porn is not a natural attraction, so I would not conclude that you are.
If you need more help you can email me.
Best Wishes
2006-12-23 22:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way but maybe you should see about talking to a professional to help you figure it out.
Maybe you are not a lesbian but bisexual. But then again I do believe it is normal for someone to feel attracted to the same sex and not be "gay". Its just a part of life to experiment sometimes maybe go through a phase.
And you did mention that one of these guys you like has a girlfriend. I did not see your other posts but maybe that could be was is making you confused because you are frustrated about it?
Hang in there....you did not say your age but Im assumming you are young....and you have your whole life ahead of you so dont let yourself get so down and depressed about these things. The right person will come along for you.
2006-12-23 21:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a sruch to have a relationship. It can start as a friend and go from there. But your mind is messing with you. MAybe because all you think about the 2 guys you had a crush on is always in your mind and your been just selective. But son't worry your not a Lesbian because if you were you would already would have experimented with women already. But you will get back on teh groove when you see a guy you like. But don't wait for a crush start with a friendship and advance from there. ALso if your lonely and need to chat just IM me and I'll be happy to chat with you
2006-12-23 21:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all girl prn is more facinating than guy prn(in my opinion) but i still think guys are way better....i wouldnt have sex with a girl either...in my book i dont think ur considered a "lesbian" until you've physically touched another girl inappropratly or kiss her
2006-12-23 21:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by (((uniquely.me))) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut and figure out what's really best for you in light of your long-range Goals , do you ever want children , is maybe the porn clouding your judgment , maybe its time to take a break , I mean really take a break from looking , dealing with your situation , learn to love yourself first , maybe you'll see more quickly after your break , often times we can be to close to the trees to see the forest .....
2006-12-23 22:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlie I felt that way for a long time even though I never thought I would be with a girl I did. Now I admit I'm bi bc I still like guys so if you really wanna talk about it you can email me at tn_elder@yahoo.com good luck with figuring out who u really are it's hard sometimes
2006-12-23 21:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! that happened to me last year. it was only for like a month tho. i like wanted to see girls naked and stuff. i was questioning if i was a lesbian or not...but then i relized it was too weird and i got over it. it was just a phase 4 me.
2006-12-23 21:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by *~kirsti~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wen i went lez, i had alot of depression, ut then i gave it up , it wasnt for me. i was to sexually active too young. so think before anyting happens. go for a girlfriend. and if you are feeling hrny.. go for it. do not let others bring you down
2006-12-23 21:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in mah opinion , i think ur juz behind a closet . hidden &scared of being revealed ..
however, i agree wit the goin thru phase .
2006-12-23 21:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Memories 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋