And if you do decide to dump her cause she got fat, should you tell her why you dumped her? Would it be fair not to tell her?
2006-12-23 13:34:11 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ummm... i dont think its fair but i wood prolly dump mi Boi friend if he got fat and i prolly woodent tell him y
2006-12-23 13:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u dump her just because she's fat, that means u dont love her at all. If u deeply & seriously love a person, u would never bother if she's fat or ugly or lost an arm or leg.. u just see her being the most beautiful creature in the world. U might like to tell her that ur feelings for her isnt that strong, & she is better off without u.
2006-12-23 13:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Joeann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong or right. It is how you will be responding to your girlfriend if she gains weight. If you feel embarrassed, repulsed, by a larger female, then it is definitely going to affect the relationship, - Get out as soon as possible. If, on the other hand you have a good relationship and the issue of weight has just become a problem, - talk to your girl friend.
Do not use the word fat.
If she asks why you are "dumping" her then I would explain, otherwise keep quiet. But again you are the one that knows your girl friend - You need to be the one to judge what to say to her.
Good luck.
2006-12-23 13:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to dump her because she got fat. If your not into her any more than your just not into her, why stay if that's not your fortay.
I personally would not tell her why that could cause some serious damage to a girls confidence. Don't be a pig. Just let her go.
2006-12-23 13:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to dump her for being fat, but it is wrong to give that as the main reason. Of course, physical attraction is very important in a relationship, but you have to keep her feelings in mind. You may want to word it differently....for instance "we are growing apart and that physical attraction is just not there anymore".
There is obviously other things going on in the relationship because if you truly were happy and loved her, then you would be able to overlook that part at this point in your relationship.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-23 13:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by luvthbps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it somewhat is extraordinary which you asked this, yet I see your factor. i think of in case you particularly care approximately them breaking apart should not be the 1st hotel although. once you spot her putting on slightly weight gently recommend fit or greater energetic events. an excellent form of people earnings weight in relationships by using fact an excellent form of "couple stuff" includes sitting around and ingesting. For all of the individuals saying it won't rely...nicely actual allure is an excellent ingredient in a relationship for me so if my boyfriend grew to grow to be bodily unattractive via decision that would subject me. additionally i like to be energetic and it somewhat isn't any secret that sometimes the bigger you are the less you could/choose for to do. It additionally relies upon on what you think approximately fat. If we are speaking some few conceitedness kilos i'm no longer able to assist that yet I do think of it somewhat is unfair to start relationship somebody at a length 5 blow as much as a length 12 and think of they're interior the incorrect for no longer nevertheless being drawn to you.
2016-10-18 22:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be really unfair to dump her because she's fat... but it will also show that you do not love her enough or even at the minimal level to accept the way she is. if you two are only getting together because she used to be slender, then you're just being superficial. just try to make some suggestions, motivate her to exercise or something
2006-12-23 13:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its wrong to do that...if she doesnt care to let herself get fat then she cant care to much about you. Screw that love her for her bs and its not looks...looks is what attracts you in the first place so it has everything to do with why you are with that person. And if she happens to get fat then she is different than when she met you and if you arent physically attracted anymore it wont work anyways so dont waste time.
As far as telling her why...hell i dunno on that one haha ur in a tough situation best of luck...
2006-12-23 13:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by gwbgod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't attracted to her anymore it isn't fair to stay with her; I wouldn't tell her it's because she's fat; that would be plain mean...just say things aren't working out. But if you love her; I would maybe encourage weight loss; in a nice way.
2006-12-23 13:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it wouldnt b fair not 2 tell her n u shouldnt dump her just bcuz shes gettin fat cuz it shouldnt matter about the outside it should matter about the inside.
2006-12-23 13:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by l2d#7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋