I have a friend that I met 2 years ago and have fallen for him ever since I met him. At first when I met him, i just fell for his looks and when I joined more clubs to get to know him better (and to get him to notice me more) I fell for his personality. He's nice, smart, funny, artistic beyond belief, athletic, gifted with music, and so many other amazing things. We are really good friends but not the kind of close where we tell each other everything. I have a friend who also admitted her true feelings for him but he turned her down because they didn't know each other well enough. I want him to know that I love him more than I have ever loved anyone else before but in doing so the friendship might be ruined and I treasure our friendship a lot. But there's also that chance that he might like me back, should I take it?
2006-12-23 13:01:53 · 21 answers · asked by Hopelessromantic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you ask me, there's no better way than this to get into a real relationship with someone. You know who the person really is, this way. The problem is that it takes lots of time... but you've already done that part, so you're set. I'm not sure how you should broach the subject with him, but I definetely think you should do it somehow. I have had two relationships that started this way. One was a high school girlfriend. We dated for 1.5 years. The other was my college girlfriend. We were friends for a good year before we started dating. Now we're married with two kids!! Maybe you can find out through a circle of friends if he might be interested. Or if you are brave enough, just ask him if he'd ever want to go out on a date with you. Make it seem like you are just curious to see if the two of you could go down that road, but don't make it seem to serious, so it won't be weird if he turns you down.
All things considered, you can't really go on like this anyway. I've been there. I had a friend in high school that was a great girl, but didn't like me that way. I ached for her for YEARS. She eventually transferred to another school. But as years went by, it just got more and more painful for me. So you should at least find out if it would work.
2006-12-23 13:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by yodadoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you never get anywhere without taking a risk and sometimes the best kind of relationships are the ones where you are friends first. I and my husband were best friends prior to getting together. We have a good relationship and 4 kids. Just make sure if it doesn't work that you can carry on the realtionship as friends...but it will be a different kidn of friendship. Things won't be the same thats for sure.....good luck
2006-12-23 13:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, I've been in your situation and let me tell you, I think I was going more crazy then you. But the bottom line is that life is too damn short not to take chances and risks. And by me realizing that, I'am currently with my girlfriend for over a year a year who happened to be my best friend before that I crushed on hard. It's better to get in the game and lose, then to sit on the sidelines and watch
2006-12-23 13:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by AC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! he sound so perfect! will you introduce us? maybe he's just waiting for me?! just kidding.. seriously, first, you have to analyze if he's showing signs that he is interested to know you more intimately, also if he is as wonderful as you described him and he is unattached at present, perhaps there is a woman he is waiting for (maybe you?), or a guy? BUT before you reveal your true feelings for him, just drop a hint or two, and see how he'll react... and then, as a final measure, confess, but tell him beforehand that you value your friendship, that whatever happens or however he feels toward you, you'll still want him to be your friend...who knows? maybe he is just waiting for a nudge from you? just imagine the times you could be spending with him as a couple! life is short, girl! go for it! Good Luck!
2006-12-23 13:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a pretty cool thing to think about. Your friendship is strong enough to endure just about anything, including, your telling him that you would like to become more romantically involved. Just ask him what he thinks. Don't trick him or play silly games to get him interested. Ask him right out, like you were ordering a pizza. Your friendship can handle that cant it?
2006-12-23 13:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by BudLt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey take the risk I didn't find out one of my really good friends liked me until a year after we met. we both liked each other and we've liked each other since we first met
2006-12-23 13:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by A guy who cant fall outta love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in so many situations where that was happened to me only mine was he liked me and my friend equally. What I did was I looked at is as would you rather have him be your friend and you not date him or would you rather date him and risk everything but if you feel as though you cant live without him the girl you need to atleast try it and if it dont work out then it wasn't mean't to be.
2006-12-23 13:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by chassidy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should seize the moment. It is obvious your friendship is strong, so you have an exclusive comfort level than you have the power to escalate. If he does not feel for you as you do for him, all is not lost. Remember you are friends first and foremost. And that will always remain intact.
2006-12-23 13:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him or it will eat you up inside. otherwise, you'll never know. yes, it's a risk, but so is love and you need to be willing to take the leap if you're in love with him. your lover has to be your best friend anyway, so there you go! Good luck!
2006-12-23 13:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the shot! Friendship is overrated. You can always get a replacement friend. It's harder to get replacement lovers.
2006-12-23 13:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋