I am the mother of four, two eldest from a previous marraige, and two youngest with my current husband, My almost two year old, is driving my husband crazy, and I can't seem to help. My husband had never been around children, and when I offer advice, he gets frustrated with me. It's almost easier to keep them seperated. What can I do to have a smooth holiday, with no one in trouble? And I need to figure it out fast, I have a seven week old, and I already dread what I know is coming.....another set of terrible twos. I'm going crazy!!!
2006-12-23 12:27:05 · 13 answers · asked by Fed Up 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I love the food fight idea, but sanemommy's advice hit home. Thank you all. I'm going to be trying this, and I think it may work.....
2006-12-24 06:57:34 · update #1
Plain and simple, men have a harder time dealing with toddlers than women do. And sometimes, even though we love our kids, it can be like mixing oil and water.
Let him be the parent when he needs to, back off and support him unless he's endangering your son. Chances are he's more frustrated with you in the background than he is with your son. He wants to do it his way, and while you should be on the same page, sometimes how we handle something is different than how our husband would.
Over the holidays, is there anyone else that can help you with your two year old so that your husband doesn't have to? Like a Grandmother or an aunt or somebody? Maybe explain the situation to them - tell them that you want a happy peaceful holiday and that the baby is going through a phase and you don't want to have to ask your husband to deal with it, so could they step in and lend a hand when need be?
Let him do things with him in small doses and cut it off when the going is good: After the holidays, have your husband "play" with the baby when both of them are in a good mood, and well rested. Tell him you have to take a shower or something, and be back in 15 minutes. Then take the baby and tell your husband you have to give him a bath or something. Let your husband experience the fun side of your baby for a while, and not the frustrating side.
If you need anything, email me sanemommy@yahoo.com
2006-12-23 13:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! We must be married to the same man. My husband is the same way. We have 4 kids together. For what ever reason him and one of our twins but heads all the time. (he's 4). My husband is just a mean jerk who has not been around l kids either. But that is a lame excuse. I have told my husband that our 3 boys will be bigger and stronger than him one day and the boys will retaliate. Hubby said he can't wait.
I don't really have any advise for you but after Christmas I am going to get therapy for my 4 kids because of their father.
Good luck and God Bless!
2006-12-23 12:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seems to me that U are particularly on part whilst it is composed of the comments U get from human beings. i'm thinking if U are this manner as nicely whilst ur hubby and son "combat". reason all of us understand young ones %. up on indicators that we don't even understand we are sending out! If U are no longer offering a unified front w/ur hubby, then U are siding w/ur son! U 2 (U and hubby) would desire to return to an awareness of ways the two certainly one of U will manage his outbursts. If meaning U 2 would desire to make certain a checklist or a psychologist to get the terrific ideas for him, then thts what U would desire to do. Ur hubby is "yelling" out of frustration! no longer anger! he does not understand y ur son isn't doing what seems so ordinary to him! So consistent with risk U would desire to get hubby right into a type which will coach him a thank you to deal frivolously w/those circumstances (and that i do no longer advise Anger administration! he's no longer offended! in basic terms annoyed). Like a help group 4 dad and mom of youngsters w/ADHD and superb. Now, a million of ur comments made me think of. U pronounced "because of the fact whilst it comes right down to it, i visit constantly decide on my son first." nicely, enable me supply U something to think of approximately....Had U of no longer chosen ur hubby FIRST..U does no longer have the excellent youngster that U do!
2016-12-15 07:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your husband who must adjust,, and have the desire to adjust, to a two year old,,,, if he is letting him drive him crazy, it shows immaturity on his part,,,,, he shouldnt be fighting with a two year old! accept that two year olds are busy, active, self centered little people, perhaps buy your husband a book on toddlers,,,, or invite another couple over that has a same age little boy,,,,,, it seems like the father needs new ideas and techniques to learn to parent,,,,, it is a learned thing,,, but something he has to do,,,,,, if he doesnt, he will have difficulty with the child threw all the years,,,,,
2006-12-23 12:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let your husband figure it out. only intervene if things really start to go bad, such as you can see your hubby really losing his cool or you think (heaven forbid) he might hurt the two year old. You aren't going to have a smooth holiday unless you cancel it, this is a hustle and bustle time for everyone and your two year old is picking up on that.
2006-12-23 12:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Donna L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your going to laugh. But get everyone to gather in the kitchen for a food fight. If he doesn't bond with the boy after that make him clean the kitchen before you kick him out.
2006-12-23 13:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bear 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well at least you have them....i would trade anything to in in the world to have that again....i was there!!! .....you just don't know how fast things can fall apart, like a drop of a hat....one's life can change so fast. There are people who have lost loved ones this Christmas and i'm sure there is someone in the hospital right now suffering in pain...I lost my little girl....I miss her so.....God rest her little soul....Merry Christmas Christina...!
2006-12-23 12:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell your husband to grow up! And your son also needs to have respect for his father. If your not having a problem then the problem must be with the father. Tell daddy it's time to change his pull up
2006-12-23 12:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Camerons Mama07 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell your husband that his son is just a child, if he doesn't like it
then he needs to move out and take time out.
2006-12-23 12:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your husband is the one going through terrible two's. tell him to grow up.
2006-12-23 12:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋