There's a girl at skool that I really like + would like to ask out. We have some mutual friends but not enough to end up at the same parties, or hang out together. We are somewhat friends and talk once in a while. I no that i want to ask her out, but I dont think she nos me that well. Should I ask her now or later?
I have been trying to get better friends with her, but it is hard. We only have one class together. Then she only has girl friends. I have no way of entering her group without being really obvious. At lunch she sits with eight other girls, in math she sits with five of her friends. How can i talk to her and get more of a friend if I really have no way of easily talking to her without it being to obvious. or should I not be worrying about it being obvious?
My friend says I should just try to have conversations with her and they will eventually get more intamate and better friends, but this seems like it could take a long time, or should I not rush it?
2006-12-23 12:23:24 · 12 answers · asked by willycj5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically, whenever you start talking to a girl that you're not around with much, it will be obvious that you are interested in her. Unless you are forced to sit next to her in class by the teacher.
The only way to get to know her better is to talk to her and if that means in front of her mates then that's the way you'll have to do it. You don't have to try to have long conversations, just begin with acknowledging her and keep it light. Don't march straight up to her like a soldier and ask her something because it might look a bit daft unless you're super confident. Try something like, if you walk past her on your way to your desk, just tap her gently on the shoulder as you pass and say, "Hi, how are you?"
Build up the conversations slowly and if she likes you then she'll become more open to talking with you on a regular basis. The trick is to get her to feel comfortable with you being around her. You don't want to do anything that might scare her off or make her think you're weird.
2006-12-23 12:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could wait.
but trust me life is too short.
If you like her as much as you say, simple walk up to her and ask to talk in private, this gets her away from her mates and you stand a better chance of getting an honest answer out of her.
Be confident when asking her (both for a private chat and out)
don't be over confident (i.e try not to come across as a prat)
She may say yes so be ready for it.
have some kind of plan .... where and when to meet etc.
she may say no, so be ready for that one too.
Any women (okay girl in this case) with any class will not make you feel like a toilet seat after the event. i.e - telling her mates and laughing at you.
if she is seeing someone, back off
If you have a mobile (mosts do now er days)
give her your number.
be polite / friendly and for god sake smile. when looking at her only look at her eyes.
and listen to what see says to any questions you may ask.
if you wait someone just around the next corner may ask her before you.
Or use the 14 Feb to make a move.
good luck whatever you do.
2006-12-23 12:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by DAVID B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her a note and ask her for her number tell her why you want it and all but dont sound so desperate, by that i mean dont come on so strong . Then when you are in there wait about 2 or 3 weeks and ask her on a date. And if you are friends with some of her girlfriends find out some hings about her.
2006-12-23 13:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is right. Take your time. When we are young it seems as though there is no time. The best advice I can give you is to use her name (not too often!,only now and again) By hearing you use her name when you say hello in the morning or hello in the evening, she will begin to realise that you are interested. Then you will have to judge her reactions from there on.
2006-12-23 12:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word is SCHOOL, not skool, Yahoo does have a spell checker you know!
Anyhow, you sould like a stalker to me, knowing all this stuff, but not actually doing anything about it, go on, be normal, go talk to her.
2006-12-23 12:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take advantage of those mutual friends, ask your friends to hang out with you and then get those friends to ask her to come along. then you talk while hanging out, if you click, you could definately ask her out on a first date, no commitment, just a date, and go from there, its about taking steps, not leaps and bounds
2006-12-23 12:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about befriending all of her friends and getting to know everyone a little better then go for it
2006-12-23 12:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out later because if you aqsk her now, she will use an excuse like she doesnt kno you and stuff, which is tru so wait till you get to kno her for a lil bit so you will be sure
2006-12-23 12:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Michi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask her later and talk to her more and you need to call her take her to the movies
2006-12-23 12:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by ashley d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont rush it - be cool take your time - if its gonna happen it'll happen.
Young love - that takes me back!
Good luck and a great crimbo
2006-12-23 12:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by raythecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋