Ok I have know this guy for about 8 or 9 years and I think he is my soulmate. The only problems are this. He lives in New Jersey me in Texas and I am a bit scarred to tell him how I really feel. I know this is dumb seeing as how I am a grown woman. He has been there through break ups make ups and everything else. He knows me inside and out. We can be on the phone and he can tell me what I am doing or wearing. I just do not want to ruin what we have as friends. I love him and I know he loves me but in what way I am not sure. We have always skirted around the whole thing. What do I do.???
2006-12-23 12:23:15 · 11 answers · asked by Darling girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes we have met. I lived in NJ For a while. We met at his gym.
2006-12-23 12:27:54 · update #1
A little more on this. We had a brief sexual encounter when he flew me up there to see him. We had both gone through break ups and just needed companionship. That was 5 yrs ago and it did not ruin anything. Yes I would be willing to move as well.
2006-12-23 12:36:03 · update #2
I'm in the same situation, except for the seperation part.
Well, I still don't know what to do with my guy because he has a girlfriend. As corny as this sounds, I still think you should listen to your heart and do whatever is best for you. Please don't be scared. If he was a true friend, he won't break off friendship ties with you. Believe me.
2006-12-23 12:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We actually have many soul mates which are our twins. You are fortunate to discover yours in this same time life line, however it's true, he may not. I think I would suggest it to him but give him an option of knowing that you may be sibbling twins/soul mates rather than mate/soulmates/twins... confused? ha.
All he can say is no. No's don't have to be more than that. It's that you want to be sexual with him as you desire his bod. That's okay too. except if the sexual relationship will cause a rift in your relationship he can't afford to lose.
I had a friend ask me for sex and I simply told him yes, but... he wanted to be even closer to me and in fact that was possible to cause us to be further as we would never be the same. He decided not to risk it. I'm glad as we were both married at the time and even though I said yes, I knew that I wouldn't cheat on my husband. My friend needed to know that he had the power to choose the best course for us. He did. Thankgoodness. I wasn't sure how I was going to get out of that. ha.
2006-12-23 20:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him how you feel and he feels the same, how would you manage a long distance relationship? Would one of you move to the others' area? That's one thing to think about.
Have you two ever met in person? Did you used to live near each other?
Telling him how you feel is a scary thing. You're afraid of losing his friendship, but at the same time would like to know if the feeling is mutual.
Maybe you can find a way to speak with him more directly without exactly telling him how you feel.
Good luck.
2006-12-23 20:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just put the question out there - say " if i met someone like you i would be convinced he was my soulmate". are you willing to move to jersey?
2006-12-23 20:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Scot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once and you have waited long enough. Plan to get together soon and let him know how you feel. Good luck.
2006-12-23 20:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, tell him that the sun and moon rise in his eyes... reach out to him, and whisper, whisper words so soft and sweet...
sorry... I could not resist, yes, tell him... if you are so close it will not have a negative effect on the relationship
2006-12-23 20:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it has taking you all nine years to say words to this bloke, cupcakes you are pathetic. Tell him already before some other hottie tell him before you.
2006-12-23 20:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop skirting the question. Get 'er done girl!!!
2006-12-23 20:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it!
but long distance relationships are hard
2006-12-23 20:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him something hypothetical. have u actually met?
2006-12-23 20:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by the w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋