My mom is way over protective cuz she got pregnant at my age. ME and this Guy named Donny like each other and he has a car and my mom says i cant go with him any where not even to the movies its not fair cuz its not like im ganna have sex with him and i told her that and shes like my answers no u cant go any where with him ha cant even drive me home from school!! What can i DO I want to hang out with him so bad. you know its my life and we only get one life so why not live it how u want! what can i say or do to get my mom to say i can hang out with him??
2006-12-23 11:53:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Show her that you can be responsible. Act more mature. Invite him over to spend time with you at your house if she allows. She will be there to supervise and she will get to know him better too. Make sure he is very polite and shows responsible behavior too. NO slang talk she might not understand, etc. She has to realize you are not her and that may take a little time. You can still hang out at your house and play games and watch videos. At least you can see him till she lightens up and relaxes. Include other friends sometimes too so she will not think you are obsessing over this guy. If he cares for you, he will understand. Maybe he can invite you and your mom to a nice dinner after she gets to know him a little better. Then she can see that his driving skills are o.k. too. When you talk to your mom about him, just don't say things like "I'm not gonna have sex with him. Explain that you are not ready to have sex yet and you sure don't want any kids yet. Tell her you want an education first before you get tied up with kids. GET THE IDEA....This is more responsible talk than just arguing with her that you're not gonn have sex, etc. Will she let you walk with him or will she drive you and him to the movies while he leaves his car at your house? If it's the car she is worried about that should solve that.
2006-12-23 12:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know your a teenager and you think your mom is the most annoying thing in the world and she's so mean and she won't let you do anything, but trust me you are very blessed to have a mom that cares. Right now you may thing that she is trying to ruin your life but later you'll think different. You say that you won't have sex and yes you may be very sure of that but you never know what could happen. One thing leads to another and in the heat of the moment you can make some very rash decisions. I'm sure she never meant to end up where she was when she was your age. Trust her. She's only trying to protect you because she loves you and doesn't want anything to happen to you. Try to understand where shes coming from and though you may not see the importance in it and you believe that you are capable of taking care of yourself, trust your mom. And if this guy can't respect hers and your decision then he doesn't truly love you.
2006-12-23 12:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's trying to protect you from what she did. But you need to make her realise that you are more responsible than she was at your age.
You should have him over to your house, and have a double date with your parents, and watch a movie or something. Maybe just have him over to your house, and make sure your mom is around.
Eventually she'll realize that you are a responsible girl, then you'll be able to be alone with him. It'll all work out, don't worry.
PS: Just be really careful, horrible things do happen, and you're right, you do only get one life, so make sure you actualy get to live it.
2006-12-23 12:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It's not like I'm going to have sex with him."
you do not know that for sure.
what if he's not as nice of a guy as you think he is, and he decides to take what he wants. you going to be able to stop him or get help if he's got you in the car?
or if he picks you up from school one afternoon after he's partied a little bit and instead of you walking through the door complaining about another lousy day at school your mother answers a knock at the door and when she opens it there are two police officers standing there saying how sorry they are to have to tell her that you were killed on the way home from school.
I know how stupid this sounds to you.
but my sister was raped by the really nice guy she met who had his own car.
I was at a friends house when they got that knock on the door with the news his sister was dead.
these things happen they are ugly. so cut your mom some slack kid and do as she asks
2006-12-23 12:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just trying to look out for you, stop looking at it from your point of view and start looking at it from your moms, she knows what everythings all about these days, and its not that she doesnt trust you, she doesnt trust this guy, whichever case you are under your moms control and she was your age, and she knows what missed out on and what she didnt, shes learned from experience about what guys are about, dont get into confrontations with your mom because of driving around in this boys car, why hurt her because of that? You may hate her now but maybe in the future you will be thankful that she didnt let you do alot of things.
2006-12-23 12:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Summer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to your mother, she knows what is like to have temptation and she knows what happens when you give in to it. Why dont you try talking to your mom to see if you guys can go out in group settings? Or hang out at your house, invite him for dinner and a movie in front of the tv. If he wants to be with you that wont stop him. Cut your mom some slack, it sounds like she gave up her teenage years to raise you and just wants you to have a better life.
2006-12-23 12:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...i do not think you will be able to solve this one...due to your MOM getting pregnant at such a young age....oh boy...whenever you decide to have sex though be on the pill...the pill, the pill...i cannot empasize enough!!! do not do what your mom had done...i am sorry, she is so adament about seeing Donnie!!! She "thinks" you will, cuz she did...you may want to talk with a counselor at school to find out how to approach your mom on this one...sorry i could not be of much help..i just explained to you why?? sooo sorry!!
2006-12-23 12:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your too young to know how to live your life. You don't want to live with mistakes for the rest of your life because you were young and foolish and that's what happens. I don't know your age, but I think she is being a typical mom and concerned. It's up to you to show her you can be trusted. Words doesn't mean anything.
2006-12-23 12:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know your age so really can't give solid advice. But yes you're right it's your life...she gave it to you. Yes you only get one so slow down and try to enjoy it. When you really think about it...being with Donnie is so "small potatoes" in the picture of life.
2006-12-23 11:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by EchoAnn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but if you're younger than 2l, most case is that she thinks you are not old enough to resist temptation and stuff that lovers do. What I mean is that, she's been there. If that guy really has good intention, he'll understand your mother, and pretty soon, you're mom will let you go with him if she sense that, that guy is really nice.
2006-12-23 12:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by angel007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋