2006-12-23 11:42:52 · 14 answers · asked by hopeful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they most likely dont fight because of you, parents can have problems too, remember they arent just parents they are a couple too....to be better, be respectful, helpful and trustworthy :o♦
2006-12-23 11:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault. Even though you only know them as your parents, they were probably a couple for years before you came along. They're people just like you and your friends, who fight and laugh and have a whole other life you might never think about.
Let them do the worrying. They're the parents, that's their job. All they need from you is to be as kind, loving and open a daughter as you can be, and to trust that they love you, even if they don't always like each other. Good luck.
2006-12-23 20:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very much that they fight over you. Maybe some things you may do or say once and a while may add to the issue, but the cause has totally nothing to do with you..its how they feel, view and think about each other.
.its the relationship that's not working not you---they both love you because you are a part of both of them, for that reason alone--you aren't the problem.
2006-12-23 21:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by S C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that it is because of you. There are problems within the family itself and they are probably using you as the excuse for not dealing with the real issues. When my daughter was a teenager our family did that. It was easier to put all the blame on her than to admit we were a disfunctional family. Afterall, we were upper middleclass, in a good neighborhood and we thought everything was great until.......we went to a lot of family therapy and it took several years for us to admit that it was all of us, not just her. You need to talk with an adult you respect; maybe a teacher, school counselor, clergy or another relative you can trust. Unless you are doing drugs, don't minding the house rules, or other unacceptable behavior I am sure it is not you. Hang in there and find someone to help you talk it out. Good Luck.
2006-12-23 19:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they fight because of you. I think they fight because they are unhappy with each other. I am sorry to hear this and I hope you realize that it is not your fault. Take care of yourself and I'm sure you are already a real good daughter and a terrific sister.
2006-12-23 19:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure your parents arnt fighting over you. no matter what happends never think that. your parents love you more than anything in the whole world and i'm sure they would never fight because of you. just try to be a little more helpful around the house, you know don't make your parents tell you to do something your know supposed do anyway, just do it.
2006-12-23 19:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by inufan2892 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHOA there sister!!. They aren't fighting because of you. I promise you that from a guy who's seen his share of arguments and scraps. In fact, you have NOTHING to do with the fact that they fight. They fight because they choose to do so. Probably, they are angry with each other over how they treat each other and the feelings may be from long, long ago.
2006-12-23 19:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
parents do not fight because of a child, they fight due to their own conflicts, so dont blame yourself,, you can be a better person, and hence a better daughter and sister, by being kind to others,, developing your mind and body to the best of your ability,,,,, and finding, as you grow up, your sense of self,,,,, and what you can and can not control in life,,,,,
2006-12-23 19:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by dlin333 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you think that's it's because of you, i think it's time for you to change... be a better daughter and sister... be kind to your parents... be good to your sister... don't fight them... i am also sometimes a bad daughter and sister so i can relate with you... make them feel you're special... just be quiet if your parents scold you... it's hard but it's the best way... it's really very very hard promise!!!
2006-12-23 19:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by whitey-chan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your parents fight because of their own issues. Find out at school from a guidance counselor how you can get some therapy to help you deal with their arguing.
2006-12-23 19:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋