I am 16 and in love with a girl who suffers from a rare heart condition. She is sometimes too ill to move and often has to stay in hospital for long periods of time. I am very worried because she may die and I depend on her completely; we want to get married when we are older. Can you suggest how I might be able to comfort her a little more in hospital? She never complains but is frightened of the dark and often feels anxious and panicky when she is alone.
2006-12-23 11:38:33 · 9 answers · asked by msrt_uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww...so sorry to hear that. Visit her everyday, write her letters/poetry (girls love that). Bring her gifts, like flowers and teddy bears. Bring to her her fave food. Make her feel special, if you could stay overnight at the hospital, do it. Give her a walkie-talkie or cell phone so she could talk to you at night when she is alone.
2006-12-23 11:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read to her. That is the most non lethal means and loving act is to just read wonderful stories. I like benny & joon, secondhand lions, something sweet and somewhat funny. In this way she can look at you without you looking at her. She doesn't have to entertain you and make any efforts to rally. She can concentrate on healing. Sometimes loving someone is too much effort when you are so ill. You don't want to tax her. Let the librarian select for you. She will be able to look forward to the next installment without exertion.
2006-12-23 11:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Visit or call as often as possible. She will replay those visits over and over in her mind when you can't be there and she is anxious or afraid. Maybe bring her a stuffed animal or something and tell her when she is upset to hold that and think of you there holding her. Best wishes.
2006-12-23 11:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's reliable to be there, whilst. you. can. you do no longer consistently could desire to speak. convey your homework and do it there on an analogous time as she naps or rests. study books aloud. placed lotion on her palms and ft for her. tell her approximately what you notice out the window. basically take a seat there. you do no longer even could desire to stay long. whether that's undemanding to get there pop in a pair of situations to assert hi. additionally get to be acquaintances together with her family individuals. Get them chairs and issues to drink whilst they arrive in case you're there. however the main obligatory element is to maintain on taking reliable care of your self and your life first or you would be extra of a undertaking than a convenience. study that sentence back slowly. She does not could desire to be demanding approximately you donning your self out and feeling to blame which you haven't any longer have been given any time for your self when you consider which you're consistently there. possibly have sooner or later each and every week that she would be able to look forward to seeing you. Or manage to call whilst that's time-honored that somebody can get the telephone to her. deliver enjoying cards. that still provides her something to look forward to and something to look at and comprehend which you think of of her. consult with a nurse approximately hospice, they specialise in assisting the dying and assisting the folk that love the very ill individual. they provides you with counseling and help on a thank you to appropriate cope with all of this. She is amazingly fortunate to have you ever. possibly you may desire to get her a variety of night gentle. additionally lip gloss is reassuring to ill people. Take care
2016-10-05 23:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show up and be there for her. about all you can really do. try to make her laugh and flowers isn't a bad idea. you must really love her if your willing to stand by her side even with her severe medical condition. most guys would of booked long ago.
2006-12-23 11:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jecht 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if shes scared of the dark get her a night light and if she doesnt like being alone make one ofthose build a bear thingd tehy have voice boxes you can rocord your voice on before you stuff your bear thenshe canalways hear your voice and never has to be in teh dark
2006-12-23 11:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should do the usuall buy flowers and teddy bears but u could also make her a tape/cd of ur guyses fave music so she can listen when shes alone. good luck.hope she feels better!
2006-12-23 11:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by flatteredwu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her right now,that's the best thing you can do
2006-12-23 11:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her i are in love with her
2006-12-23 11:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by the w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋