married. He attends church regulary and shares my same values. I met him through a college instructor who I have been friends with for several years and she thinks we would make a great couple. She said she has thought this for some time but due to our age difference she was afraid of what I might say. The problem is I am 25 and he is 40. I don't know to many people who have married older men. I am wondering if i were your best friend and came and told you this what advice would you give me? I do have parents to deal with this also.
2006-12-23 11:33:19 · 12 answers · asked by Ashley_LS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's all up to you, it's a matter of personal preference. Personally, I don't like such a big gap in age. Because of some reasons:
1. Having a much older husband would mean you won't have fun as long as you want, like doing sports together, travelling, etc. Energy decreases as you get older, doesn't it?
2. I don't want to be a widow soon!
3. I want my kids to be with their father and play with him much longer.
It is not easy to find a good man, especially with such moral values. It could be a dilemma for me also. But just have faith in God that He has the best guy for you! If this one is from Him, then don't hesitate to go into a relationship with him.
2006-12-23 11:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the best of times, age does not factor into things unless you have an issue with it, I believe it is about two people first, short of a huge difference.
Some people never married or had children, numerous reason for this, but if this man has such wonderful qualities, is the age thing the only thing stopping you and why?
2006-12-23 11:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Angela W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you were one of my best friends, and you came to me and told me all of this, the only thing I think I'd be surprised with would be the age difference. You being so much younger than him could make you look like a gold digger, or arm candy.
Other than that, obviously you and he have a lot in common, so I think you should pursue a relationship, and don't worry about what other people think about it, and that includes your parents. If they have an opinion, you should definitely respect it, but you don't have to follow it. You're an adult, and you have the right to pursue a relationship with a man. Good luck, have fun and be happy!
2006-12-23 11:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference of 40/25 should not be a problem at all...
50/25 would not be a problem..
2006-12-23 11:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been married at 40? You should look deeper and see if there is a reason he hasn't been married. There are many married men that claim to not be married or never have married to get a little on the side. That is how I lost my first wife, she was cheating with a married man and left me for him but he dumped her as soon as she was serious about him. She never knew he was married until he dumped her.
2006-12-23 11:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not matter. I was with a guy who was 19 years older than me. The one thing you have to ask yourself is why has he not married yet? Maybe he has just not wanted to settle for someone or he could have issues. Watch out and good luck.
2006-12-23 11:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Darling girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when women who were in their 30's who had never been married are considered to be damaged goods. Now its the men. If you like each other and he treats you good, thats all your parents should care about. Maybe he was focused on his career and now is in a place in his life we wants something serious for the first time.
2006-12-23 11:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My own opinion is in case you 2 share an same hobbies and values and love one yet another, than the age distinction would not be counted. really. it will be wierd if he had youthful ones your age (or close to to), yet he would not. 15 years isn't a terrible distinction, both, and also you would locate that as you improve older mutually, that age hollow will close. tell your father and mom previously they meet him so it isn't a large marvel, yet I wager they're going to be fantastic with it at the same time as they see you 2 mutually. I actually have a SIL and some friends married to adult men a lot older than them, and except for talking about music from their severe college years, it would not make a distinction!
2016-10-16 21:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 25. You can meet a lot of younger good males that are sooooooo interested in you.
When you will be 40, he will be 55 and will be unable and uniterested to have sex. Will you be able to deal with that?
2006-12-23 11:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sam P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end it's your happiness that's the issue. Your parents should want that more than anything and if not then tell them to deal with it. Don't break ties with your family over it or anything but just explain to them how you feel and they should understand or at least tolerate it.
2006-12-23 11:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋