i'm aware that you all will think im a horrible person for this, but oh well. i have a problem, where i always seem to end up with guys who have girlfriends. two of these guys were guys that i dated in the past. they got new gf's, but continued hanging out with me on the side. they weren't just physically cheating either, there was a lot of emotional cheating going on with me as well. in many other instances, guys with perfectly good relationships seem to want me, and even tho i've been hurt by a cheating ex before, i still do stuff with them (emotional or physical, but no sex). why are the only guys who want me guys who already have gfs? im not a slut (only ever slept with two guys), i dont dress very provocatively, im not THAT attractive, and they're always the ones who make the first move
2006-12-23 10:54:55 · 27 answers · asked by Steph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh wow!
sounds to me like guys really trust you! You must be the realt hing, with personality and all but i bet you're being a little humble about the not being attractive thing! You have been a little selfish though!
Even after being in a situation that your putting these girls in you still go and do it! You have to think of the other people besides you and the guys that are affected my this!
As hard as it sounds you shouldnt be knowingly involved with another man who already has a partner!
You have to tell these men that they are grown men and have to think of there girl friends! if they want to be with you they are going to have to break it off with the other person, stand up dor yourself tell him that he cant love 2 girls!
Hope I Helped
Bye<33
2006-12-23 11:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by briacass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of guys out there who cheat. A lot of girls let them because they think its better to have any guy than no guy at all. Just stop hanging out with guys who are taken. Dont even give them a chance because you will be the one getting hurt in the end. There are a lot of men who are available. Maybe you are needy and not know it. Most guys know this and can use it against you. I think you are going out with these guys because you been hurt by your cheating ex before. Its not that you attract cheaters, cheaters usually go with anybody who will let them in. Just dont go out with these kind of guys. You will find a guy who doesnt cheat someday. Guys cheat because they want to or can, not a reflection of the girl they are with. Hope this helps.
2006-12-23 11:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are always being cheated on because you let it happen to you. Its an honest mistake if you wouldn't know at first if the guy is taken or not. But eventually, once you finds out, you should put a stop on seeing him/them. You can't hang out with that person anymore. You should know for yourself what you want and how you want to be treated. If you let this things happen numerouse times then that's what's going to happen. Move on to the next. Dating is a tough game. Only the right time would tell when you would mee the right one for you.
good luck!
2006-12-23 11:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by piggieme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that men who want as much relationships as possible take you as a target. Try and look more attractive. Other, sincere, honest men will find you. It's just a matter of avoiding those men who cheat. Work on your appearence. Cheating men will take anyone but women that look smart.
2006-12-23 10:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a few women like this, and it's usually because they give off "helpless" vibes. Men really want to rescue women (it's a bad habit) and those women that appear to need rescuing tend to attreact a lot of attention. Unfortunately, it's not usually long term, and they soon grow out of that desire.
That might be a possible cause. It might be because they think you'll say yes. If they view you as "easy", that might be it.
2006-12-23 10:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are willing to buy into their lies and play along, and it feeds their egos. What you need to do is set a standard for yourself that you will not be involved with "taken" guys.... defined as anyone who has a wife or girlfriend. Don't allow yourself to be with them for any reason at all. Draw the line and don't cross it.
Then you may be free to be pursued by available guys who you can call your own.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-23 11:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of its too uncomplicated to assert 'as quickly as a cheat, continuously a cheat'. each relationship is thoroughly distinctive and that i easily think of that's impossible to assert how somebody will react till put in a undeniable difficulty. there'll continuously be people who cheat repeatedly, yet then there'll continuously be people who cheat as quickly as and understand the outcomes of their strikes and in no way gain this lower back.
2016-10-18 22:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by woodworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question even though u dont want to think about it is why would u b a homewrecker.....if u wouldnt see them and just were friends then they wouldnt b physically attracted to u............and they wouldnt cheat on there gf or wifes.....the answer is not to go with taken guys or u are even though u dont want to think it are a homewrecker
2006-12-23 11:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by happy_go_lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will only do what you allow..If someone breaks up with you, and you let them hang on emotionaly, they have the best of both worlds...LIft your head high and get rid of the leaches..there is somone waiting for you...You have to close one door to open another.....
2006-12-23 11:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using my five biblical principles for finding a soul mate, if you want to be truly happy with your body, soul, and heart start standing up for them! It's time for you to brake free of your emotional, Physical and mental bondage girl! Your worth waiting for! You say am not that attractive!? What? Why do you break yourself down like that? You know there is a loving father in heaven that loves you!? You have many gifts within yourself to offer! Don't let a guy tell you your not worth waiting for, that means there not worth waiting for! I suggest first to Pray to a your loving father (GOD) and Jesus to brake free of the Mental (lies you are putting in your mind that your not good enough) , Physical (what you are putting your body though for someone Else's pleasure) and Spiritual bondage (most important your heart which you should protect at all Cost, because the Truth is that you are loved). You can Stop the visous circle of bad relationships your on if you believe in yourself and trust in God and Jesus Christ which bring you great truth that you do have something to offer and know that your loved. Next, After you have prayed start following my 5 biblical principles for finding that true guy that will love you for who you are inside first than out!
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. God Bless!
2006-12-23 11:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋