my ex-bf and i dated for a year and a half, until i cheated on him, causing us to break up but then get back together. which is when he cheated on me in some sort of revenge. we broke up six months ago, and we've still been sleeping together despite the fact that he has a gf. we're going on a vacation together in a week to vegas. but i'm still in love with him, so i dont know what to do anymore. i'll have fun on the trip, but what should i do after? i love sleeping with him cuz i still love him, but he doesn't feel the same way. i just dont know how to be friends with him after finding out that he cheated, and i still kinda wish i could make him break up with his chick and have a casual relationship with me. what do i do?
2006-12-23 10:40:24 · 26 answers · asked by Steph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are you totally sure you love him? if you loved him enough i dont think you would be letting him cheat on his gf....what if she were you? it's all about karma. but then again i no where ur coming from, i think. you should definitely tell him how you feel. maybe if you pour your heart out to him, he'll understand you more. maybe you should at least stop screwing him, for a few reasons. one being that he has no reason to date you if he's getting everything w/out having to. if you stop screwing him, maybe he'll want you even more, and yall can actually date in a normal way w/out hurting other people. but who knows? how do you know that if he was dating you, he wouldnt cheat? when ur in vegas, open up to him so he can understand ur dilemma. gosh. good luck tho...
2006-12-23 10:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!!! As fast as you can.
You are in a seriously dysfunctional relationship. If you ever want a relationship based on trust you have to stop living on the edge by being the other woman. He didn't like it when you were unfaithful and neither did u. You are both staying together out of comfort with one another and the obvious adrenalin rush you get by being in a forbidden relationship ( "the fact that you are both still cheaters").
If you ever want a healthy trustworthy relationship you have to first be trustworthy. Then stop looking for a thrill outside of your current relationship. Spice up what you have (not with your ex - your new beau) so that you won't get bored and go looking outside of your relationship for excitement.
Leave the ex alone and go on a vacation with one of your girls. Stay away from him until you can be around him without wanting to have sex. If it was his trip to Vegas, tell him to take his girlfriend. So he can work on his relationship and get over you.
You'll never be happy again if you don't.
2006-12-23 11:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people come and bypass. in case you adult adult males are not continuously happy mutually, then you certainly probably should not be mutually. An off lower back on lower back relationship isn't healthful, i think of the main suitable answer to the two is to stay good friends or no longer something in any respect. you will omit one yet another like loopy while aside, yet in time, you will recover from it and discover somebody else which you would be lots happier with. out of your words, it somewhat is been a lot of bumps on your relationship, it seems such as you adult adult males could have a much greater useful relationship once you're in basic terms friends, it's going to be no longer uncomplicated at first, yet in a speedy on an identical time as, each thing will bypass decrease back to the way issues have been.
2016-10-18 22:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by woodworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound confused - why are you going on a trip to vegas with him? If he wanted to be with the other woman he wouldn't be going to Vegas with you unless you just like being a man's f-toy. Nothing wrong if that is what you like being if that is what you are really about.
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-23 10:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop being a friend with benefits. He's only getting best of both worlds and in a sense he's taking advantage of that. So, if he doesn't have the same feelings for you I suggest you move on
2006-12-23 10:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by Alana ♥PeAcE♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if you love him, or if you love what you do with him. If you know he's a cheater, you're just heading down a bad road. I'm sure you could find someone who is good for you and only you and who is 100% committed.
2006-12-23 10:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still love him u should tell him how you feel and tell him that u still like sleeping with him and u are sorry for cheating on him and u wish to come back together. Good Luck.
2006-12-23 10:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by mysteryathelete 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone. He does not care about you. He is just useing you for sex. How would you feel if you were his new girlfriend. It is not fair to you or her. He is the one getting the most out of it. Find someone who you can have a good sexual and personal relationship with.
2006-12-23 10:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Darling girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh. Well, if he has a girlfriend already, don't interfere, but if HE likes you more than his girlfriend, he'll break up with her. He'll know whether he wants to or not. Ya'll are good for each other, I can tell, but you have to be yourself, don't cheat, and remember that when you cheated on him, he was hurt, and he doesn't want it to happen to him again, so he might reject you. But have confidence! Goood luckkk!!!
2006-12-23 10:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by ツ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both are too immature to
accept the fact that you both don't
love each other enough to zip up
your pants!
You love to screw but want no commitment...
2006-12-23 10:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by just me here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋