Does a situation change based on how you were brought up or what you believe?

Question

If a man was brought up with the idea to never hit a female no matter what the reason was, would that affect the situtation or would it be different based on what he believes. When a person is brought up, whatever he is taught is not always what he believes, now if this person was caught in a situtation where a female was acting up and decided to hit a male, let's say the male hit the female back for the attack he recieved, how would you react to the action if you were a bystander? Take in mind that males are usually taught to never hit but defend themselves unless it's a female, they are taught to never hit a female no matter what, yet females are taught to never hit but always defend themselves no matter what. It is a double standard that can create confussion and it seems a bit unfair.

Answer 1

for me the situation wouldn't change if the female who started the attack had backed off and just went another way...but if she were constantly coming at me and hitting me...I would have to think about it because if i have no marks on me but there is a mark on them then i could easily go to jail...but if i had several marks on me then i would have to do something that wouldn't really hurt her but stop her or distract her to where i could get to safety.

Answer 2

I was taught that men are not to hit a female...yet a female will hit a man....This is my thoughts on this ...first off I do not think that anyone should raise a hand in anger to hit anyone....yet they still do it.....I think men are the stronger of the two sexes when it comes to strengths,and i think a woman is a more delicate creature than a man,and thats why men were taught not to hit a woman because she is the weakest of the two...it would be very easy or a man to over power a female and really hurt her bad,where as a female hasn,t the strength to really hurt a man unless of course she is using an object,but only with her hands it wouldnt be that common...you with me so far? ok when men and women fight I think she feels that strength and feels threatened,because she knows that he could really hurt her and she knows she can,t over power him so she lashes out and slaps.....its not right i agree but I think it makes the woman feel like she has a little power,and when she slaps., if a man slaps her back she stops in her tracks and acts as though she cannot believe he done that,and the man usually always gets the blame....Its like the man is the powerful object and the woman is a victim...and thats why people would look on it as a bad thing if a man hits back....It would look more manly if he would just restrain her,and hold her until her little temper tantrum was over.Now i could be wrong but thats how most people see it.....I know women now days are acting tough like they want to fight,but in a fight between a woman and a man,the man is always got the advantage over the woman if he should chose to retaliate.

Answer 3

Statistically, men who hit women usually come from a home where this is the norm.

A man who has a propensity for violence is most likely going to hit the woman, the kids, the dog, and anyone who interferes in the process.

I do believe a man can be driven to violent behavior even if he isn't wired to be so. There are limitations in practically everything.

I have seen examples of women who were hitters and they usually came from a family where, just like the men, became violent enough to become physical.

So yes, I believe a situation does change based on how you were brought up. And believing the appropriate action is to become physical certainly falls within the scope of what you are describing.

Answer 4

Actually, If we described this situation with an objective manner that 'd be unfair
Education and instinct take crucial roles with human acts.
Since young age, a man who was educated well, that would effect him a lot.
In some societies, men are not brought up with the idea to never hit a woman.

Answer 5

You will behave in a manner based upon many of your own values, beliefs, prejudice and personal history. So all the factors you mentioned come into play.

Answer 6

maybe People can become better if they try...they cant use the excuse of bad parents forever..