i really enjoy the sense of anihillation I get when I drink. How can I give up?

Question

Life is so full of bullshit. My attachment to booze seems to soften the shite that I'm going through. How do people really give up - I mean, How do you really want to, decide to ?

Answer 1

Annihilation is defined as "total destruction" or "complete obliteration" of an object;[1] having its root in the Latin nihil (nothing). A literal translation is "to make into nothing".

Life could be full of BS. Abusing booze to eliminate the shiite can work temporarily, but there are consequences- thats for certain. For sure, anybody can stop drinking or using drugs for that matter (alcohol is a drug!) The ONLY way to give up is to want to...not because you HAVE to. When you make the decision to stop, there are a few options available- A.A. seems to be umong the best places to start. I'm not an alcoholic, but I frequented many meetings. I strongly recommend going to at least a few and then make a conscious decision if its for you or not. Here is a sneek peek at what you can expect.

How it works
1.We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4.We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8.We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10.We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11.We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12.Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
This sounds like a big order, and we can’t do it all at once. We didn’t become addicted in one day, so remember—easy does it.
There is one thing more than anything else that will defeat us in our recovery; this is an attitude of indifference or intolerance toward spiritual principles. Three of these that are indispensable are honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. With these we are well on our way.
We feel that our approach to the disease of addiction is completely realistic, for the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is without parallel. We feel that our way is practical, for one addict can best understand and help another addict. We believe that the sooner we face our problems within our society, in everyday living, just that much faster do we become acceptable, responsible, and productive members of that society.
The only way to keep from returning to active addiction is not to take that first drug. If you are like us you know that one is too many and a thousand never enough. We put great emphasis on this, for we know that when we use drugs in any form, or substitute one for another, we release our addiction all over again.
Thinking of alcohol as different from other drugs has caused a great many addicts to relapse. Before we came to NA, many of us viewed alcohol separately, but we cannot afford to be confused about this. Alcohol is a drug. We are people with the disease of addiction who must abstain from all drugs in order to recover.

The Promises .

If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be
amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new
freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to
shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will
know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will
see how our experience can benefit others.
That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose
interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will
slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of
people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know
how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do
for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled
among us -- sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always
materialize if we work for them.
Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 83-84


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. ~ Reinold Neibuhr

Answer 2

Change your relationship with alcohol, rather than remove it from your life completely. That requires you to stop abusing yourself, and start to enjoy a good relationship with alcohol. It takes a lot of effort to recognise the behaviour which is abusive, and to change it. However, it can be done if you focus on it.

It is like the relationship you have with food. Some people never gorge on food, or alcohol. Even at Christmas they show remarkably extreme restraint.

Other people can binge eat and drink on occassions. Learn what the triggers are which cause the onset of a binge eat or drink, and use diversion and avoidance techniques when the trigger has been pulled.

Answer 3

How do you really want to, decode to! you have answered ur own question. If you really want to, then you will. It stasta with ur own intention & decision. then ask God & pray to stop drinking becos if u don't u know the downward spiral u'll end up in. Then it'll be even more difficult & anyways, u have to give up one day.
The way I gave up smoking is just forgot about it over night, put it out of mind, out of my thoughts & concentrated on getting on with it, just becos \i made the decision there & then & that was it. Nothing could change my mind.

Also use this affirmation which is really powerful & it'll tell ur subconscious mind to release ur adiction:
just reeat over & over as often as u can:
I am willing to release the need for alcohol.
it'll do wonders.

Answer 4

yes i know what you mean but the drink just makes you feel good for a while that is all and its not worth it, i think you are fed up and have been through alot, you need a caring person to talk to swallow your pride, your problem with drink wont, just heal you need to find out why you want to drink, write a diary everyday with your feelings that will help, You are a special person and God loves you, and you were chosen to be born, thier is better for you than this. read your bible everyday and renew your thinking, its improtant you see yourself as God sees you not as anyone else does. He loves you and will not hurt or let you down. take care my friend, no one is judgeing you. Theirs only one judge. That is your heavenly father. o jp[e upi get pver tjos as upi deserve better/

Answer 5

You can't force yourself to decide to give up.
We all have different rock bottoms, and I believe that you have to hit yours before you can make a descision to give up the drink.
I know why you drink, and I understand. But, you do need to think about things. One day you will realise that you need to stop, and stop you can.
Maybe popping along to an AA meeting might help?
If you want to talk, feel free to send me an email.

Answer 6

When your liver starts to fail, when kidneys star to fail. when you can`t remember the day before, that`s when it may occur to that most people who drink are not like you and it is time to re-evaluate yourself. Unless of course you stop now.

Answer 7

Why stop? drink is your friend, a drink never goes total spastic if you stick your tounge in another drink, a drink never answers back, a drink never takes your car and reverses it into a fooking bollard then put it back and say nothing ( i dumped the biatch for that), a drink never nags you.

Ah screw it, have a drink, you kow you want to.

Answer 8

if you think your drinking is a problem see your doctor, otherwise carry on in moderation.

it's christmas, everyone is drinking!!

cheers.

Answer 9

How do people really give up?
good question!!

Answer 10

go to rehab i think they've got all u need there