why cant i get a gf??

Question

i am a sopmore in highschool and the last time i went out with a girl was in 8th grade...i am a real guy but i am afraid to talk to many girls bc i feel i am ugly and i dont want to be turned down..everyone on the basketball team keeps telling me imm ugly when i do not think i am but after hearing it over and over it gets to me..basically my self esteem is real low and it all started in hs...in ms i was the ladies man i went out with alot of girls but now all of a sudden since these ppl keep telling me im ugly i just too scared of hearing that from a girl


when there is a girl that i see is cute how do i approcah her to try to get her number and rember that i go to a black school so the girls there are a lil more "ghetto"

real nice guy*

Answer 1

I know, High School is a drag, and I hate to sound like your parents, but now is the time to study hard AND NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU!

If you concentrate on your grades instead of girls, you'll go to college. If you go to college, you'll have more opportunities in life. Including romantic opportunities. Believe me, A LOT MORE OPPORTUNITY.

And while ghetto girls might pay attention to looks in High School, that's NO INDICATION of what you look like when you grow up. When you hit 21 or 22 and fill out, those girls will probably be crying their eyes out for ignoring you then.

But it won't matter, because if you take my advice, you'll use your time wisely to get the foundations of an education. Which will make those "ghetto girls" seem like bad charicatures.

Answer 2

What does going to a black school have to do with anything? There are a lot of people that date who go to different schools. U can tell her where u go to school. IF ur shy, tell a friend to pass a note or something. I know a guy who was a ladies man all through high school(the years he went), but all of his friends told him he had a face only a mother could love(I've seen pics, trust me, they were right). But he dated A LOT. ANd I've also noticed atleast for me, that u only get a mate when u really don't want one. It's worked for me, and countless others. Try that. Good luck. Don't listen to ppl who think ur not good looking. Beuty is in the eye of the beholder! In the case of my friend...trust me....it truly is. He grew into his looks, so he's a hottie now, but back then, I saw pics, and was surprised he got girls in H.S. much less get laid!

Answer 3

Well for 1 thing you shouldn't listen to the ppl on your basket ball team b/c maybe there just jelous of you in way. And you shouldn't doubt yourself like that (don't compare yourself to others). Like just b/c someone said that your ugly doesn't mean that you are. And if you like that certain girl in school then you should take take that chance and try and talk to her. I used to be like that like i never i was pretty ever though ppl told that i was i couldn't believe it. So what im sayin is that you should get that confidence and believe in yourself and learn to love yourself 1st. Well i hoped this help and remember stay strong and keep your head up.

Answer 4

to be good looking isn't the be all end all. If everybody just liked the (so called) good looking ones, then there wouldn't be so many people around. Beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. Having said that, everybody has to deal with the possibility of rejection unfortunately, but you have a head start, you sound like a great catch, and rejection isn't always about how you look.

Answer 5

do you like those ghetto girls? the reason i ask is because often if they're into you they'll ask you out, so i wouldn't stress about it that much. only other thing to keep in mind is that you need to be confident in yourself and take charge of the situation early on, if you're interested you need to go ahead and say so and not tip-toe around the issue, it can be a little mean. you need to get back in touch with that confidence you had in middle school when you weren't listening to what other people say and you were more aggressive. in high school things change a lot and people tend to sort and sift into different groups, based on who it is that they think that they want to be, who they want to identify with. it isn't always about who they truly are.

if high school doesn't work out for you, if you decide to go to college it's rather hard to mess that up. i didn't get any action at all in high school; the few girls i did date were outside of my race, and i had a crush on my neighbor the entire four years that i was in high school. i think i made out with this one girl extensively and could have gotten lucky but it just wasn't meant to happen. plus i was depressed. in college, it was rather slow going, but i had far more play and forgot about the girls in high school by the end of my freshman year. and that girl i had a crush on for four years; i'd met a girl and told her about it and that was pretty much the end to that friendship. look at it that way; whoever you're stressed out about now, ghetto or not, you'll forget about it quickly once the situation starts to change in your favor ...

Answer 6

Looks don't mean anything. In my opinion as long as your a nice guy who i'm compatable with you're great. Forget about your looks. Do the best you can, but don't go overboard with it. It's way more important to have a good personality then it is to look good. Believe me, guys that are good on the inside are hot on the outside. Once someone love you for you, you'll be georgeous to them. That's all that matters.

Answer 7

Oh Ghetto ? I think the real problem is you are afraid of them being real with you not scared of being called ugly. Well welcome to the real world. An all black school does not mean they are more ghetto. some of the best schools have more bitches and whore than public schools. what is wrong with you is you think if they call you UL you have reached your lowest point. don't discriminate and grow up.

Answer 8

Maybe its just not time for you to start dating. I'm sure you don't want to end up with anybody... so why not be patient until the girl comes along. But if you do have a crush on someone, let em know whats on your mind. Don't be so shy!

Answer 9

omg if your on a baketball team there must be a girl wanting u. u know how u get scared 2 talk 2 girls,maybe girls get scared 2 talk 2 u 2. so make a move. but not in public . it might be more imbarrising

Answer 10

too many ppl come here complainin about not havin a gf,
well its ok. theres nothinwron with that. u juss didnt find ur match yet.
u dont have to feel bad about ur self, thousands of ppl out there spend their whole lives alone. but eventually they find their own love.
dont think about too much,
enjoy ur life and good things will come along