i have been so meen to him in the past, because I had to shut him out, because he couldn't except me, and I didn't realize that I was shutting him out until recently. I was shutting him out because I was shutting everyone out and I accidently did the same to him. It took years, but I did it. Then, he got really meen to me, and when I asked momma about it, she told me about me shutting him out. I feel so horrible for being such an a**hole to him, and I want to mend our relationship, but I don't know how!!! Does anyone know? I really need some help!
2006-12-23 10:22:01 · 11 answers · asked by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a teenager.
2006-12-23 10:37:36 · update #1
My daughter did the same thing to her brother. First arrange some time when the two of you can talk. Maybe over pizza? Just put it all out there to him. You know how because you just told complete strangers the cause/reason. Tell him and be "real" about it. Let him know that you want him in your life again. Admit all of your mistakes and commit yourself to regaining your brother's trust. Don't forget to apologize.
2006-12-23 12:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Lew1127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh mending a broken family relationship is hard especially if the other side isnt that responsive . I gues you have to take time out with each other in a neutral place . Explain youre reasons then allow him time to tell you how he felt and is feeling . Talking is always a good way to get past anything . Get it all out there but be prepaired to possibly hear things you may not want to hear . May be right now isnt the best time as everyone is caught up with the drams of xmas so start a fresh in the new year and see how it goes .
2006-12-23 10:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!I'm not going to lie to you; it is difficult to come close again but not impossible. You just need to make him understand your reasons-make sure they're good ones-for shutting him up and also to convince him of your good intentions. Try to show that you've sincerely regretted the way you treated him in the past and that it's a shame for two brothers to end up like total strangers. Swallowing your pride could be quite beneficial to this attempt. Hope this helps.
2006-12-23 11:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to mend your relationship, go to him and apologize for shutting him out. Sometimes its hard to say "I'm sorry". Apologizing is not saying this is all your fault, but saying you're sorry will make it easier for your brother to talk to you; he's probably being mean to you because he feels like you're ignoring him. Be honest and explain to him why you shut him out and then both of you should agree to talk to each other when somethings bothering you.
2006-12-23 10:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tishmay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you've told us and ask for his forgiveness. Don't let this go on. Two of my brothers didn't get back together until the night one was dieing of lung cancer. Please don't wait that long, Honey. Actions speak louder than words. He may not trust you at first, but you just keep on keeping on and he'll know that you are sincere. What is a better time than Christmas to make amens with your family? I'll be praying for you.
2006-12-23 10:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question. Try just going to your brother's house and talking to him, telling him that you're sorry for how mean you've been and how much you love him. If that doesn't work, try suggesting family counseling. You might benefit from a one-on-one with a psychologist yourself.
2006-12-23 10:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by hottie_spaniard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be saying this to him, not us. Just sit down with him and explain that you're sorry you hurt him, but you didn't realise you were doing it. You say your mother explained it to you, if talking to him directly doesn't work, ask her to explain it to him too. It might take a bit of time, but once he knows you're sorry, it's the first step.
2006-12-23 10:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Poppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you sit him down and tell the reason why you were shutting him out and say sorry it will proberly take a little time but hopefully it will heal good luck lol xxx
2006-12-23 11:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by channel 15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person here, and go to him and try and sort it out and explain
2006-12-23 13:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just what you've written--apologize to him and give him extra attention---if he pushes you away try and be understanding and give him awhile to think things over.
2006-12-23 10:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋