who's side would you take?

Question

you have a 4year old in pre-school and the teacher told her to stop talking in class.Your child did it again and the teacher pointed their finger right in her face and yelled at your child real hard and made her cry.

Answer 1

I do agree that the child should listen when told not to talk, but I can't agree with the way it was handled..... I used to work at a daycare/preschool, and I saw the way those kids were treated and it made me sick... .. so just make sure the teacher isn't taking their authority too far.... I witness a child jerked up by their arm screamed at in their face then dropped into the corner for talking when it was story time.... another time I witnessed a child hit in the head by a hardback book and it knocked them to the floor, for not singing their ABC's..... You bet I quit workng their and I sure did report them.. there already were numerous reports before mine and they have almost been shut down... It hasn't happened yet, but I am hoping it will.. No child should be treated like that...... Their parents don't even do that!!!! So make sure that there is nothing else going on... look for brusing, or scratches, or unexplained marks... and ask your daughter daily what is going on... I would also report the teacher to the board, and let them know that if your child is ever harmed.. you will make their lives (especially the teachers) a living h***.... No one should disipline your child in that way except for you, and if they have a problem with your childs behavior they need to handle it differently, and discuss the issues wiht you and then let you handle it.. Not only that but it is extremely embarrassing for your chld to be treated like that in front of others. And a 4 year old still is not completely self displined, and they still don't always understand.. AND they have a short attention span.. AND they can't remember everything.....

Answer 2

First off, the teacher should never yell at the child. I would think there is a lot of other ways to deal with a child. My children arent that old yet, and i dont have to deal with 20 some students....but still i feel this is not the correct way to deal with a child who is talking in class. I would tell the teacher it isnt appreciated and maybe speak with the principle should this happen again. I would politely talk with the teacher first though. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Well if the child was misbehaving the teacher should have taken some sort of action. A professional would not act in that way. You never yell at a child or put your finger in their face. That is ridiculous.

Answer 4

The teacher was right to address the issue, but wrong to point the finger in the face and yell. I would say neither are right here, and I would talk to whoever was in charge about the teacher being able to control herself physically when kids get out of line, which includes yelling and pointing-both of those suggest problems with anger management.

Answer 5

Preschool is supposed to be fun!

Sure this is the beginning, and they will learn more about "the rules" and socialization...but I have never found it necessary to yell at my child in the home, and I would be very angry at any adult who did. (And no...I don't have a perfect kid).

I think it would have been acceptable for the teacher to give your child a time out, a consequence (no play time) or if they were being really naughty ask you to come and get them.

I have a HUGE respect for teachers and what they are challenged by on a day to day basis. I think any good teacher would agree. It's not okay to yell.

Sorry your little one had a bad day!

Answer 6

she has no right to make your child cry. yes your child should have listen but its not up to her to punish her for that. she should have moved her from whomever she was talking to and scent her home with a note. if that was my daughter i would be in there with my finger in the teachers face telling her where she can put her anger. good luck and get her a new teacher.

Answer 7

This is a tricky one. I know kindy teachers and they would neverpoint a finger or make a child cry. I think that your child may have been told off a few times and did notlike it so she decided to make up a story to tell her parents so she would not get into trouble.Good luck.

Answer 8

did you or any other adult witness this?

If you did, then you need to have a serious conversation with your child's teacher. If you've heard it from the grapevine or even from your child, you must investigate further before taking action against the teacher.

If it's true and you don't get satisfaction from either the teacher or the principal or supervisor of the school - consider removing your child.

Answer 9

I say stick up for your daughter, she had no right to do that. Yes, your daughter did not listen, but yelling and doing that isn't a result. Teach your child the importance of listening to their teachers... she's only 4... so give her a break...

For myself- when I was going to my babysitter's, she had her son there... and her son always picked on me, well her son got me into trouble when I didn't do anything, I got stuck in a corner, and then her son pulled my hair so hard, I cried. My babysitter was like, "Well, you deserved it for being bad." That's not fair at all.... and what was worse, my mom stook up for the babysitter and didn't even want to listen to what I had to say. It really broke my heart.

Stick up for your girl. They don't need to be doing that! If they don't see your side, then go somewhere else honestly!

Goodluck! Happy Holidays!

Answer 10

I would not be happy with the teacher and I would talk to her about not making my kid an examle. At the same time I would deal with my child and teach her to listen to directions and do as shes told in class.