A buddy of mine is dating a very beautiful, smart and interesting girl. He genuinely thinks she is gorgeous but he also truly loves her for who she is inside. What should he do about what could be perceived as a potential problem? Perhaps more times than would be considered healthy he cannot or simply does not resist telling her how nice she looks (tactfully), which may lend to the notion that he likes her more for for her looks than for her. Maybe there's not a problem here but what would be your advice nonetheless?
2006-12-23 10:08:28 · 13 answers · asked by TryingToLearn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there doesn't seem to be a problem. I love getting complements from guys. I'm sure she loves it too.
2006-12-23 10:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tell my wife how beautiful i think she is at least once per day. i don't get all cow eyed and mushy about it, it is sincere. he should try to say it in different ways. i use the "you look marvelous" with a latin accent from time to time. it gets the point across and is a little funny, women like funny. he can also complement her by saying that she looks pretty with her hair styled like that or in that particular outfit. or that color is good on her. i think you or should i say he will get the idea. tell your friend that he does not want to give the girl the idea that he thinks that she is too good for him. if she thinks he thinks that, she may start thinking that too. if it comes to that he will have to alter his approach again. he should use lines like "it is a good thing you are so pretty, a sexy man like me would be tempted to accept offers from other women if you weren't." make sure you or he smiles when he says that. it may be just kidding or is it? you, excuse me, your friend should keep her guessing.
2006-12-23 18:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a teenage problem. Us old geezers (like me) know that to tell a women she is hot to trot is something she will always like to hear. Besides, if she is dating him then leave well enough alone. But if she was 200 pounds heavier would he like her then. Don't think so. Seems sometimes the insides and outsides have a mutual liking for each other.
2006-12-23 18:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship a girl needs to feel both beautiful and attractive...they arent the same thing...feeling beautiful is when the guy looks at you as if there was noone else in the room...when he writes you cute messages and when he calls just to hear your voice...but we also need to feel attractive and thats when he cant keep his hands off you...that should also be controlled of course....but both are needed.
2006-12-23 18:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by ap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him to stop telling her shes beautiful or goergouse and tell her how he likes her on her insides and how he loves her mind and the way she thinks of things and stuff like that dont make her feel like he only like her for her body .
2006-12-23 18:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Abbey L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no problem there, stop trying to make up a problem that does not exist, the girl probably doesnt feel like she s only loved for her looks.
2006-12-23 18:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by nubiapoet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should tell her that she is a very nice person inside and all over. and he should say to her i think Ur beautifull but your mind is beautifull to to fish it off so she nos he like her for not only for her beauty but who she is!
2006-12-23 18:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by dimples2792000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... girls dont mind being told they're beautiful. but every now and then it wouldn't hurt to tell her how much he appreciates her for everythig she is...and not just her looks.
2006-12-23 18:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by laughoutloud22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just as much as he compliments her looks he should also compliaments her on the things inside such as intellangance and her nature of things
2006-12-23 18:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by shortysherry46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time i like complements of my looks
2006-12-23 18:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by The godfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋