I am not a doctor or a nurse....I do, however, have experience with autistic children. It is clear to me from the behavior, fixations, etc. that their 4 year old has a mild form of autism. I want them to know because I feel with treatment, he could be amazing. They do not think anything is wrong with him. I don not want to hurt our relationship, but I feel like I owe it to the child. I do know him better than almost anyone.
2006-12-23 10:04:16 · 22 answers · asked by 4in5yearsMom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When he goes to school which it will probably be in another year, the school will notify them. There isn't a cure for autism. If there were then I would tell them but there isn't so just let the school tell them. More than likely they already know but don't want to accept. I am sure their pediatrician has noticed something.
2006-12-23 10:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'll bet you already know what you want to do. I would completely support you in either decision because it seems clear to me your first concern is for the well being of the child.
The kid comes first. By sharing your opinion you may save them tons of time. It can take forever for a teacher or doctor to see the signs. As you probably know early diagnosis is crucial!
Remember...as you said, the kid is amazing! They don't see anything wrong with him. Take that angle. Tell them about your experience, the things you've seen...give it all a positive spin. Tell them you've seen children with autism exhibit that behaviour not that you think their child is, and let them ask questions. Plant the seed!
I am taking this side because I would want to know. I would rather hear it from a friend than a stranger. If they were wrong we could breathe a sigh of relief together. If they were right I know I've got someone supportive who is familiar with the challenges my wonderful child may face.
You'll figure it out! Whatever you decide I think its wonderful that you care so much for others! Best of luck!!
2006-12-23 10:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jay Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really better know what you are talking about if you're talking about diagnosing a child with autism. Even though you say you are not a doctor, you would be basically making a diagnosis over that child.
I hope that you are very good friends with that family, because people can react very defensively concerning their children. I don't think it's anything to be taken lightly. It would also be rude to just impose those suggestions on them, especially if they don't believe there's anything wrong with their child. Parents always know their children better than anyone else, they're with them all the time. I really don't know how a parent could not notice that there is a promblem with their child...but you notice that something is wrong with their child. They may really think you're implying that they're neglecting their child.
I think the mother would do better talking with a pediatrician first, because it is so odd to me that the doctor hasn't also noticed that something is wrong. Could you possibly be reading more than is there in the situation?
Not to mention is that family saved? If so they may not take it kindly of you speaking something over their child. There's power in words and you have to be careful with what you speak. Just about all other cultures believe in the power of words, but Americans unless they're Christian don't think much of it.
To me I think you should approach that situation very cautiously.
2006-12-23 10:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you are not a doctor or a nurse, so you are not qualified to tell them that just because you have a hunch he is autistic. A lot of children are labeled without giving them a chance. I am sure that his parents take him to a pediatrician that will look after his health care needs. It is not up to you as a nieghbor to see that he gets treatment. Yes early intervention is good, but they may not think that it is necessary.
2006-12-23 11:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by sllcone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever tried conversing to the lady your self? How previous is she? Are you specific she's quite autistic as they say? i could do all i will to get as lots information in this family individuals as accessible, before making something time-honored or glaring (i.e. that's beneficial to think of two times approximately calling newborn centers at this factor, when you consider that they'll deliver a social worker all the way down to the place of residing, and if those people do be able to play it off, they may well be extra careful from then on and make looking out _anything_ else quite puzzling)... Do even with the undeniable fact that bear in suggestions that one element the U. S. is obsessed approximately is newborn welfare, so in case you call, you would be taken heavily; you basically could desire to substantiate you will no longer appear as if a fool whilst an agent incorporates envision those circumstances. additionally bear in suggestions that whether the youngster isn't abducted, possibly its their very very own newborn and she or he's being abused... I advise no longer having any furnishings does not sound or seem general. Are there signs and indications of drug use between the mother and dad? Any extraordinary scent or unusual activity going on are signs and indications of drug use or meth manufacture. beware for varieties interior the mother and dad' behaviour. If I have been you i could attempt to be as discrete as accessible at this factor and basically discover out as much as you are able to before you're making a criminal (or the different) pass. in the event that they seem quite suspicious, "frightening" them could desire to easily make your examine lots harder, incredibly in the event that they're paranoid drug addicts... One question that incorporates suggestions... what style of motor vehicle do they force? And do they seem to have jobs?
2016-10-05 23:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. They will thank you in the long run because they would be able to get help for him now. Find all the research possible about Autism and pamphlets and bring them with you so they cant say " You don't know what your talking about" Trust me...its a good idea!
2006-12-23 10:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is none of your business. They may know already but have CHOSEN to raise their child this way. And since you admit to not being a doctor or nurse you COULD be wrong.
2006-12-23 10:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more than happy to be the way nature has made them. My vote would be to let it be. If you really want to help, maybe YOU could work with him a little to help him out. That would certainly be less intrusive and very rewarding :-)
2006-12-23 10:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its a touchy area, if they feel nothing is wrong with him,,,, he will soon be of school age,,,,,, i would wait and let the school mention it, if that is his problem,,,,,,,,,so unless the parent ask you about it,,,, i would keep quiet,,,,,, if they dont know you have experience with autistic children,,,,,, you might bring that into casual conversation, with no mention of their child, but that is a risky area ,,,,,
2006-12-23 10:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one. It is still a word that carries a lot of stigma. Does he attend a playgoup where you could involve a teacher?
2006-12-23 10:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋