i was on toms email accout to print something when i saw a email from an old gf.she sent it 1 day ago and tom did not see it yet and does not know i read it then deleted it.this is what it said tom how are you?it was nice to see you again even if u did give me the cold shoulder.your girls are so big!mary.tom never told me he ran into her and shes not just any old gf.they have a long history and he left his 1st wife for her 5yrs ago.it sounds like he just ran into her at the store or something with his girls.my questions are what do you guys make of her email?why would she make a comment about him giving her a cold shoulder?what was she expecting?does it sound like she is after him again?i know your thinking well he gave her the cold shoulder why worry.i can't help and wonder if he gave her the cold shoulder only becuase the girls were with him and he wanted to get out of there before anything was said. they are old enough to repeat what they hear and turn him in to me or their mom.
2006-12-23 09:59:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok. first you can only control your reactions so watch what you do.
you shouldn't have gone into his email. thats his private email. you should have never deleted it. How would you feel if he did that to you.
and it only happened 1 day ago, its not like a yr ago! he could have easliy forgot, since its the holidays and his kids were with him.
If he didn't remember it, its not important to him
stop trying to control him, it only brings you misery,
plus the kids would have said something if daddy was talking to another woman. maybe he DIDN'T EVEN SEE HER!!!
you are taking t his way to far.
relax and enjoy your time together around the holidays. enjoy him, and what he does for you and the kids.
2006-12-23 10:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he gave her the cold shoulder becasue he doesn't want nothign to do with her anymore. You need to stop snooping casue one day you might find someone you don't like. Well for the deleted e-mail just don't tell him. But now a days you can run into almost anybody anywhere without even trying so it might just been an accident. But you need not to worrybecause he would have talked to her even with the children with him or not.
2006-12-23 10:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what I am going to suggest is dastardly...but good on you for deleting the email. I don't mind my partner reading my emails...cause I have nothing to hide...so if you are married to him what is private?
I would continue to check his emails for the next few months and continue to delete any from her. You are worried because he cheated on his ex wife with her.
To be honest I think she may be interested again...think about it...if you had moved on, happy in a new relationship, why would you give a damn if your ex gave you the cold shoulder....I wouldn't give a damn.
She is a sneaky lil *****...watch his emails like a hawk. It is no way to live I hasten to warn you. I don't think any stronger actions are warranted at this time...he really has not done anything wrong. Cold shoulder....I suspect that was because your kids were with him...there again that depends on how they terminated their relationship.
2006-12-23 10:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm thinking that he didn't want to tell you because he didn't want you to get all worked up over nothing.. i think he gave her the cold shoulder because he doesnt' care for her and he didn't want to be to rude and be like your a beoytch don't talk to me.. i wouldn't worry at all.. if he wanted her he would have stayed with her, but he has you and i think he knows that you are what he wants.. but what i would be curious about is, is that email address he has old, or is it new and he gave it to her and why?? i would say if it was old then theres nothing i could do about that, and if its new then maybe she wanted his number and he didn't want to give it so he gave the email address and has it alot easier to ignore her.. i dont' know though i'm not him, this is just my opionion.. good luck and best wishes! hope you have a merry christmas and a very happy new year!
2006-12-23 10:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not need to say much of anything because you have said it all
you know exactly what and why
your very smart..
and I am very sorry
it is so hard, sit down and talk to him before it is TO late, sit calmly and you can even say the girls said you were talking to a girl the other day
but you need to TALK calmly
good luck
smile
and
God Bless
2006-12-23 11:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ll be honest, Mary would ask why the cold shoulder because she expects a huge hug, after such a long time. i would think she wants a bit of him. but i m sure you have nothing to worry about. just dont make it an issue to tom, cause thats when it will worsen and push him to her. he s done good and avoided her now let it be. merry xmas
2006-12-23 10:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by nubiapoet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the one with the problem. Trust problem. Has he given you a reason to think the way you are or are you the problem with the trust issue. If you haven't gotten trust in your relationship, you are trying to paddle a boat with one oar. If he has left one of his families for someone else, guess what, he will do the same thing to you and them maybe you have a reason not to trust him. Open the lines of commuication, (without fighting)
2006-12-23 10:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by cprucka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry right now. It's christmas, just enjoy your family time. If history repeats it's self their is nothing you can do. It sucks but have faith in your love and enjoy your time together until you see signs that he is cheating. Your gut will know.
2006-12-23 10:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't have messed with his email account if i were you. if he gave her the cold shoulder, what makes you think he's going to go back to her now? you have no faith in your husband and that's a serious problem in any relationship.
2006-12-23 10:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno. It sounds like he did the right thing, for whatever reason. I also might be tempted to omit an encounter with an old GF. Why bring it up? Why cause unncessary worry for you.
Blame her for trying to get something stirred up by sending an e-mail, not him.
2006-12-23 10:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by VirtualElvis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋