How do you cope with the loss of a loved one around Christmas time? My grandpa passed away on the 21st and was buried this morning, Christmas is suppose to be a cheery holiday where it's all bright and joyful, but how can you be like that when your heart is broken and theres a hole there missing? Is it even possible?
2006-12-23 09:58:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off...sorry to hear about your grandfather. I lost my father on December 4, 2004. How I cope with it...is that I know...number one...that my father is with Jesus...and that kind of makes me smile. My father suffered so much. Two...I believe that my father has been reunited with all his family and friends who predeceased him...and that too gives me comfort. As the years go on...it does get easier...however...you NEVER forget!!! This christmas will be very difficult. The christmas of 2004 was for me. Also...my father's birthday was December 29th. This is the first christmas that I've actually strung out lights and felt my father was giving me the strength...and letting me know that it's ok to celebrate. In doing this I also feel that I am celebrating my father's life...if that makes sense. Hope this helps.
2006-12-23 10:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lynnie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate, we lost my dad and grandpa in the same week. I know it is going to be hard but at least you have other family members to be with you. Don't feel like you have to be fake cheery, if you are sad it is ok to be sad. It is a loss and you can't expect to get over it just because it is the holidays. Maybe being with family will make you a little less sad. Hang in there, time does make it easier. Now I think of all the good times instead of being sad.
2006-12-23 10:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie, i am so sorry for your loss love. I sadly lost my dad when i was 15 he was a lorry driver and died in a motorway accident. Even at 15 my friends didnt understand i suppose they dont really know what to say and sometimes until people experiance what you have gone through dont know how to approach you. You say that they are using this to hurt you but you dont say how. All i can say love is that it will get better to cope with in time but you will never forget him. I am 50 now and still love and think of him everyday and i know that he is with me now and again dont worry things will get easier in time all the best love xx
2016-05-23 02:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about your grandpa. its going to be a tought xmas for you but just try to have a good time and make the best of it. Its going to take some time to make most of the sadness go away. Just think, would he want you to sit around and cry and have a bad christmas or would he want you to have a great time? Maybe try spending hristmas with alot of your family if you are not already.
2006-12-23 12:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by kurzez_incokerated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no coping, no getting over it, you just move past it. Try to keep in mind your Grandpa would never want to hurt you or to make you feel bad, so while you may be grieving try to see how he would want you to be at Christmas at this time. Maybe that will help.
2006-12-23 12:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by spitfin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm so sorry about your grandpa, and I know it's hard to lose someone especially around the holidays. I just always look on my love ones as angels watching over me. Tell yourself that your grandpa wouldn't want you being sad at Christmas.Just picture him in your mind running around Heaven with his Santa hat on singing Christmas carols with all of the other angels. God bless you !!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-23 10:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Momma passed away last November, two days before my Dad's birthday. She was 59 & was an unexpected death. We try to talk about Mom as much as anyone wants. I think it is good to still talk about them. Yes, we cry sometimes, but we talk about the silly things that happened in the past... the good times that we all had together... she will forever be in our hearts. So... for us, talking about Mom & the past helps us cope.
2006-12-23 12:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your grandfather.
It won't be the same, but you can acknowledge your happy memories of him...Christmas and otherwise. Surely you can think of one that makes you smile still.
Those memories are what keep us connected to those who have passed on. Think of him, smile, and try to have a merry Christmas.
2006-12-23 10:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to let yourself grieve. Find someone you trust to help. It will leave exhausted, but at least you will have gotten it out. Use the break to do this. If you bottle it up and take it back to school it will break you down. When you get together use it to remember the good times and celebrate his life, not to mourn his death. You already did that part. Remember you have to let yourself grieve.
2006-12-23 10:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im very sorry. try to have a good time with ur family and friends. but if it does come up, talking about all the funny things this person did rele helps. it can make everyone feel better and laugh.
2006-12-23 10:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by beatles luver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋