2006-12-23 09:48:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you are over 26, have 100,000 USD/equivalent or more in the bank, don't take drugs and aren't practicing alcoholic, you have been in a stable healthy happy marriage for 3 years or more and you know beyond all doubt that you aren't having kids in an attempt to keep your marriage from falling apart, you both have the same religious and political beliefs, one of you will be staying at home to supervise the child while the other spose is working, the spouse with a career makes at least 40,000USD/equivalent each year, your house is paid for and you don't plan on moving, you live on a street which has little traffic so the kid can go for walks or play hopscotch, you wouldn't hit a kid with a closed fist, you wouldn't shoot stab or bludgeon a kid, you wouldn't molest a kid, you aren't into bestiality or the 'swinger lifestyle', you both take responsibility for everything you do...
If you meet all of the above criteria, then congratulations! Most folk (in U.S.A. anyway) don't care enough to even try to do all those things before they go and make the silly decision to bring kids into the world which they won't even send to a church or a synagogue.
I hope you know the Lord Jesus. You are going to need him much and often if you have any children. :-)
2006-12-23 10:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should be done with partying and ready and willing to sacrifice many of your wants,even needs for the sake of children. Also, when you have a baby,its not a guarentee the baby will be everything you hoped and love from a parent ought to be unconditional,so dont have one unless your ready for healthy or sick.
Ideally,when one parent is able to stay hom at least part time so that the child isnt stuck in a daycare all day with no variation of enviroments and less than 3 hours a day with you or the other parent.
2006-12-23 17:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can ask then you are not ready yet.
Seriously though, the things you need to be able to offer are stability and security.
If you are in a stable environment both relationship and homewise.
If you have the support around you that you will need.
If you have a secure home and enough income to feel OK. ( nobody in the real world is ever rich enough to really afford kids)
And your both feeling broody.
Then you could be ready
Good luck.
2006-12-23 17:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're not sure then you're not ready. You'll know when the time comes. Just know that the traditional "knowing when" is bull. You will never have enough money or a big enough house. Don't put it off for those reasons. If you don't want kids there's nothing wrong with that. Not everybody should have kids.
2006-12-23 17:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you have to be finacially ready, you should be either married or at least in a very serious relationship about to get married. i mean if you are going to have kids with this person you might as well marry them. and you should realize its a full time job. not just a baby, a child, a teenager all that. get a puppy first, trust me. they are pretty much like a having a kid. they need constant attention and affection and you are soley responsible for their well being. if you cant handle a puppy you cant handle a kid.
2006-12-23 17:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know that you ever definitely know for sure. But my advise would be to make sure you're happy and stable in your relationship first of all b/c kids put a huge strain on it, and in your career. Kids are a huge responsibility, pray on it, and if you truly feel that your're ready then go for it. Nothing really prepares you for the blessing of little ones!
2006-12-23 17:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by beautifulnsaved 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready for all of your needs and wants to take a back seat to someone else's. When you are stable and are not carrying around a lot of baggage. And of course when your body tells you it is time, then there is nothing you can do about it. The biological clock is a very strong force.
2006-12-23 17:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should know if you're ready; personally. If you are with the right person, and the both of you are stable enough to raise a child, and have the understanding of what comes along with pregnancy... then why not? Just don't rush if your not sure.
2006-12-23 18:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are never really ready because you dont know how it will affect your life. Kids are blessings but remember: Once you have kids, they always come first so be prepared to schedule around them.
2006-12-23 17:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by edward 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't really know...however it is a good idea to at least be financially ready because kids take a major chunk out of your budget.
2006-12-23 18:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋