My ex bf was the one who dumped me, so I was really shocked when he told me that he wants to see me and "meet up". He called me, and planned the whole thing (a movie). I assumed there would be coffee afterwards since after one year I thought he wanted to really talk & catch up. He picked up, but he never opened any doors for me, he walked ahead of me, & after the movie he just drove me home. He never walked me to my door & just said "merry Christmas". He never tried to even hug me so I just shook his hand & said bye. I felt like trash after the date, he treated me bad, like s**t. He would open doors & walk me to my door when we were going out, but I thought he would be a gentlemen again cuz of all the effort he put in to set up this date, by calling & picking me up. I thought after the movie, we would have coffee and that he would say either 1) I want u back, or 2) I wanna be friends. I thought #2 is what he would say. Neither of this happened. WHY did he do that & treat me like that?
2006-12-23 09:21:04 · 15 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On the way home, I finally asked him why did he wanna meet up w/ me after all this time & he said 'u know just to hang out, I wanna see u every once in awhile'. He really meant, I wanna see u every year, on my terms & I'll treat u like this. I went home & decided that I don't even wanna see him once a yr & that I had to tell him this & how he treated me bad. So I went on msn aftre the date and I told him exactly how he made me feel. I said "You know, I honestly did wanna see u, & I did kinda miss u, & even though u'r a nice guy, after the way u treated me today, the way u rushed it, & the way u said bye in the car, we don't even need to see each other once a year, we should pretend like today was our final goodbye." He was shocked & kept saying sorry. I finally just said bye & logged out. Am I right or did I overreact? By the way, when we were dating it never went past kissing cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage.
2006-12-23 09:22:08 · update #1
GOOD FOR YOU HOTTIE!!!!! After reading your story I think he got off lightly. No one should be treated that way. He should be dating barnyard animals because he acts like an unsofiisticated du--a--.Yor way out his calibur and I hope you find someome, I would say better but you can't get much worse than this arrogant butt. PLEASE DON'T APOLOGIZE.
2006-12-23 09:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a little, I think. I do think you did the right thing by deciding not to keep him as a once a year friend, you still haven't healed from the relationship. Sometimes people just want to prove to themselves that they can pick you up and drop you off when they please, ego thing, then again, maybe he just wanted to hang out and seeing it as a friend thing didn't feel obligated to do all those things, then again, he may have felt awkward and did not know how to handle the situation once he got in it. You know his personality so you may be able to figure his mode of thinking but if it made you feel this way, I say close the chapter, heal and keep moving, girl, shake yo' shimmy and don't look back. I got Divatude for Christmas (giggle) I recommend it for all women. Confidence is key, if you continue to ask him about it, he will see it as neediness or an ego boost. Let it drop from here.
Hope it helped
2006-12-23 09:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why could no longer her very own husband restoration the motor vehicle, this is kinda his respinsibility. Why did she enable ur bf know that it grew to become into broken and not her very own husband, looks a sprint extraordinary. He will possibly no longer have theory something of it, may well be a effective individual, in the event that they are pals or are on talking words could have basically helped her out, yet she could have some kinda hidden time table here. Have u informed him that ur pissed off approximately this, has he informed you the explanation why he fixed it for her. If he's conscious how u sense approximately this kinda stuff he shudnt have executed it and he's interior the incorrect. Ur no longer over reacting I wud have long gone mad, this is not something you do, I doubt he wud like u doing a similar ingredient. i think of refer to him approximately it and tell him next time to perhaps no longer try this, she has a husband who must be doing this, I doubt her husband is inspired the two if he's conscious approximately it. i think of refer to him approximately it in a calm way
2016-11-23 13:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after one year? that's pretty odd..mmm...if he treated u like ****, u did the right thing. i think what happened was he was thinking back on u and wanted u back but once he spent time with u again, he decided he didn't want ur friendship or love. i think what u did was the right thing. also...him just taking u to a movie and then dropping u back home---that is wrong!!! and he couldn't even open a few doors for u!? maybe the meet up was just cuz he wanted to see how hott u looked or something. i dunno what his reason is, but him treating u poorly like that...and that msn thing where he kept saying i'm sorry...maybe he really didn't care but when YOU pushed him out of ur life he was all "jeeze..."so...better to go find urself a real man.
good luck
xaoooo:)
2006-12-23 09:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you didn't over react. he's a jerk and doesn't deserve to have you as a friend.
well done on telling him how you felt and why.
you're so right, he wants you as a friend, but totally on his terms. well that's not good enough, coz you have feelings and deserve to be treated bette, even as just friends.
i'm sure he's going to rethink his actions now and maybe if/when you try another friendly date then he'll be different. play it by ear, don't cut him off totally right now, but make sure the next date is on your terms and ends how you want it to (oh yeah, don't start wanting him back either, coz that'll just confuse the whole issue and you'll end up losing out big time).
as for you keeping your virginity for marriage, good for you and good on him for respecting that. at least that's one good point for him, eh.
hey, best of luck in this, and remember to do things on your terms.
2006-12-23 09:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have over reacted a little but I see your point. Maybe all he wanted was a friendship, if so, you shouldn't expect him to open doors and be sweet. Maybe he just wanted to see of he could get a date with you. I think you did the right thing, just maybe a little too dramatic because now he thinks you want him back and you're pissed b/c he didn't treat you sweet.
2006-12-23 09:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by barefootmodel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so he treated you like a regular friend instead of a love interest, perhaps he didn't weant to lead you on with hopes of something that would not be posible
i think you did overreact for the simple fact that you were expecting the same treatment from someone that used to give it to you but is not obligated to do so
2006-12-23 09:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real question is, WHY if you know he is going to treat you like that are you still talking to him? it's not like you are going to end up going out or even being friends again except on his terms, and trust me that is not a relationship you want to have.
2006-12-23 09:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you did the right thing because in my opinion he was completely rude and disrespectful to you. It would be degrading to you to see him once a year you can find much better than that.
2006-12-23 09:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No girl, I wouldn't worry about it. He shouldn't have dumped you last year. He had his chance, and you gave him a second chance, and he screwed that up too. There are plenty of guys out there who will respect your wishes of abstinence. Go and find you one. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-23 09:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋