How do i decided whether have another child.?

Question

I have a little girl of 3.5 yrs old who is bright funny etc.
Will I damage the beautiful relationship I have with her as my husband & I would like another chld but when i try to discuss this with my husband he just sayings well it's up to you. Not the most helpful?

My husband adores babys and children as has since Megan was 4 months looked after her while i worked. I would love a baby but I do tend to over analyse most decisions. Part of my job unfortunetly!!
I felt pushed out by my younger sister who is 3 yrs younger than me and did not want this to happen with Megan

Answer 1

There in not anything I would not do to change time and have another child I have just one and she will grow up alone without anyone if something happened to me and I do regret this.If you want a baby do it while your little one is young she will love the baby and help you take care of it.Children are very accepting. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Being an only child I feel like you should do it, just because your ready for it mainly. Megan is the right age and she might like having a baby around. My child will be 5 in Jan and I am now 4 months pregnant. My daughter love the idea of me having another baby. I don't regret nothing.

Answer 3

Usually when a man says it is up to you the answer is usually no.

Some questions to consider. Can you afford another child? How does your daughter behave with other children? Have you prepared your child for a sibling? Have you considered the effect this may have on your marriage, finances, time together with spouse, free time etc.

If you can answer all these questions and others than come to mind then go ahead and make your decision but keep your husband in the loop.

Answer 4

you have a beautiful relationship with your daughter you will also develop a beautiful relationship with another child also including your daughter who will gain a sister or brother, however you and your husband should make the decision together ,and not just up to you , try to get him more involved, in the decision,which may be difficult if he is not being very helpful,but do this without pressure, but i don't think your present relationship with your daughter will be damaged.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

well 3.5 years older isn't a bad age at which to have a child.

main questions though: are you ready?

siblings are fine with having kids so long as you prepare them

well before hand and help them look forward to having a sibling.

he probably doesn't want too analyse how he feels about it or he's just prepared to deal with whichever situation you present him with.

if you're prepared then it's alright. I'd love to have kids as early as possible because it increases the chances that they'll have a job (or be closer to having a job) when you're thinking of retirement... it's a good decision all round to have them early if you're going to have them at all.

Answer 7

I will not lie to you and say 2 kids are easy, cos they are not. Although with the age gap that you will have, at over 4 years, it will be easier for you.

Mine are 2.5 years apart, with my son being older. He ignored his sister for 6 months, and as soon as she started crawling he would pull her hair.

Now he is at school all day it is easier, but if at the weekends we have nothing planned, or Daddy is working away, then it is hard.

Having said all of that, I would not want my son to be an only child.

At the end of the day it is up to you and your partner. Talk to him about it, and make him talk, it has to be both of your descisions.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I am the oldest of 7 children! I believe that as long as you include your daughter in on decisions like what to buy for the baby, and what to dress the baby in, help get you diapers and help you read to the baby. Get your daughter as involved as possable.

Answer 9

I think it is unlikely to have a negative impact on your relationship with your daughter. Just make sure you explain to her that the wonderful thing about love is that you don't have to take it away from someone to give it to someone new :)

Answer 10

thats the age gap between my two and its great!
the best thing i did was involve my son he told his cousins not to climb on me, he helped pack my hospital bag and helped pick a name(thank god we missed out on bob the builder!).
his face when he first saw her made me cry he didnt look scared or worried just so excited and happy that his littlte sister was here.
he protects her(although she beats him up), and the two of them have a great time creeping about breaking into the cookie jar!
support is the key, its a big change, make them a part of it