We met on the internet, and now I'm in love with him, he's in love with me. But there's a huge setback, I lied about who I am, the picture I showed him isn't me. I know what I did was wrong but I don't know how to fix it if I can, should I just end the relationship or let out the truth and hope that maybe he'll still be with me even after such a screwed up, horrible lie? what should I do?
2006-12-23 08:40:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TELL HIM THE TRUTH!!!! if he really likes you he will like you for the ways you are... not for the way you look....... just teall him the truth and wish that he forgives you........ GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-23 08:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth! the truth will always fix everything. By fix I don't always mean 'what you want will happen" but you will no longer be living a lie regardless of him accepting you or not. You probably have learnt your lesson already but to lead someone on for a year is not smart! >.> shame shame on you. :D but at least now you have come to terms with the right choice and everything will hopefully unfold from there. Show him your real face as soon as possible, and if he don't like it he is shallow and probably only like you for the, I'm assuming, pretty picture you put up for him. You sound insecure about your appearance if you couldn't even put your own face on a computer screen. It's okay though everyone has insecurities but I'm sure your a beautiful person so don't be afraid of what another person thinks about it.
Good luck :)
2006-12-23 16:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a real messy situation. you started the relationship out with a lie that didn't need to be told. It's going to make him wonder what else you have been dishonest about. All you can do at this point if you really love him; is come clean with the truth and just explain to him why you felt the need to pretend to be someone you aren't. Maybe he will understand and you two can move forward. If things do work out, please don't be deceptive again. Take it as a lesson learned. Good luck.
2006-12-23 16:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can’t go on with the lie if you expect anything to amount out of this relationship. You need to tell him the truth and see what happens. If he really does luv you maybe he will be able to get over the fact that you lied to him.
2006-12-23 16:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Meyonce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships based on lies never work out. How can you are him be in love and never met or had a real date, eye to eye conversation. Looks like you have screwed up. If it were me, I would tell you to go lie to someone else.
2006-12-23 16:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is so important in a relationship. Be honest with him maybe he isn't being honest with you either and the two of you can have a big laugh. One thing for sure is you will find out if you two really love each other. Looks don't mean a darn thing...or did you fall in love with a picture...not him. Be honest.
2006-12-23 16:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Wilhelmina F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been talking on the internet for the last year then he must be interested in more than just looks with you.
tell him the truth and see how that goes. if he's no longer interested then that's his loss.
besides i think if you've been chatting via the net for so long and have held this lie for ages, then just think what he may be holding back as well, hmmm...
go on, be brave and tell the truth.
2006-12-23 16:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how do you know that it was all truth at his end. Internet romance is only one step higher than holiday romance - both are sure to fail in the long run. Better luck next time but then, be sure to tell the truth...............
2006-12-23 16:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I am betting your BOTH lying!!
I dont know why people fall for each other on the net, its beyond me...(yea, I had a girl actually drive 150 miles to see me, and I told her I was married and I didnt "do" that sort of thing, but, she drove anyways and I didnt see her! But, she told me about it later on when she got home... sheesh, wimin!).
So, confess to him in your Instant Messages, and send him a "real" picture of yourself if your wanting to get this to work...and then, both of you get a camera...so that you can talk and see each other... This will help both of you if your really serious...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-23 16:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have lied to him for over a year...well young lady, I guess it is time to come clean....take your chance and see what happens...all you can do....why would you do something like that and carry it on for so long? Tell him that he fell in love with you because of who you are not what you look like....see if that will work but be prepared.....good luck and hope you learned a lesson here.....be proud of who you are...and what you look like.....
2006-12-23 16:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! he is in love with a front that you put out there a fictitious compilation. you owe him a big apology. now you say your in love with him yet you know no more about him than he knows about you!
by my definitions you have corresponded for a year but you have yet to date
come clean with him and let the chips fall where they may
2006-12-23 16:48:12 · answer #11 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋