and i would like to no if youall think its ok to ignore him after 11 years he hasnt spent 1 day with me and it bugs me cuz he didnt even call to say happy birthday
2006-12-23 08:29:26 · 16 answers · asked by read_laugh-love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like your step Dad is your true Dad! Now may not be a good time to have your biological father in your life, so it is okay to ignore him for now. It's pretty sad that he didn't call for your birthday! I hope your step dad was there for you!
2006-12-23 08:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly understand, why you feel the way that you do, about your biological father. It's a shame, that he hasn't spent 1 day with you, in 11 years, that's a long time, for a father, not to interact, with their child. He's certainly given you a legitimate reason, to feel this way and I don't think you're wrong. I do think you should tell your father, how you feel, it's not good for you to keep this bottled up inside, it's evident that he's hurt you, with his absence, in your life. He's missing out on all the wonderful thing's going on in your life, that he won't be able to go back in time for, once it's gone. If you don't want to talk to him, that's fine too, it's your choice. I admire your stepfather, for being there for you and I can tell, you do too. Anybody can be a daddy, but it takes a real man, to be a father and your stepfather, wins the title, of being a "father". Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
2006-12-23 08:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be reasons your dad doesn't call. You should call him and come right out and ask him. Do you ever send him a birthday card? A fathers day card? Or just a "I thought I'd say Hi" card. If you think he's ignoring you, you be the adult and open up the lines of communication. Even if you are only 11.
2006-12-23 08:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Wilhelmina F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong to ignore him, if that's what will help you get past it, but have you ever asked him why he did/does that? Sometimes kids get caught in the parents' crossfire, and think that lack of communication or contact is completely one parent's fault, when in fact the blame lays on both parents. You sound like you're awfully young, so have you spoken to your mom about that? Or an older sibling? See if you can find out your Dad's version of things, or if you can't find someone who's not biased against him, try calling or writing him to find out. If there's still no answer, do whatever you have to do to move on, and give your step-father an enormous hug for doing what so few men can do--fill a father's shoes. Best of luck, and lots of love over the holidays.
2006-12-23 08:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's ok to ignore him. You have the right to because he did nothing to deserve anything else. So, you are right. The problem is you may regret it if he is suddenly sick or worse, so whatever you decide just remember you have to live with it and it's ok if that's what you want. you owe him nothing and you don't have to feel bed either way,just think about that and decide from there and do what is best for you. Why are they like that? My daughter feels that way about her dad and has every right. One still tries to talk to him, the older one. The younger one really despises him. they have the right to their feelings and he has no right to expect more. Good luck baby girl, I know it hurts no matter what and I am sorry for all of us that has no fathers because we do have issues with it for our whole lives. Trust issues and security issues. it all stems from that dad that left us behind and never bothered with a birthday card even. They don't have a clue what they are doing.
2006-12-23 08:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok to ignore him, the question is do you want that, if there is a way to repair the damage between you and him and you really want to then it would be worth a try, if you don't want anything to do with him, then yes simply ignore him and be done with it...
2006-12-23 08:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Justin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a sugar daddy is in actuality used as a connection with the boys who purchase women human beings high priced issues and destroy her, basically so she would be in a position to have intercourse with him or some thing like that.. i would not use it till you need an tremendously awkward relationship with your dad..
2016-10-28 06:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong because I know how you feel but at the same time you have to give him a chance! Just give him a chance and if he is willing to try again you should to. But don't let him walk all over you one chance is enough! Then take it from there!
2006-12-23 08:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ooh...that's a tough one.
you should ask your mother what is going on. maybe there is a reason your biological father does not talk to you. but hey, if your step dad is who you call dad. then your better off moving on with life. sorry if i didn't help.
xoxox
2006-12-23 08:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Hollow ✌ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say without knowing all the details, but one thing you might consider is that if you forgive him for ignoring you, you'll feel better about yourself.
2006-12-23 08:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋